Ryan Landry > Quotes

“You will not learn for others to pat you on the head and feed you a biscuit. That is a child’s approach. The applause of others is nothing compared to the satisfaction of gathered wisdom.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“Be careful of the man who speaks of equality. The further from himself the grievance he wishes to address, the more likely he is hiding mistreatment of those closest to him.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“These women do not stop to ponder the consequences of their claims to be playing with the boys. They do not consider the full male experience, but cosplay the particular parts the system wants them to play. She works hard for the corporation. She has meaningless sex. She acts tough. She isn't afraid to fight. She then wonders why women are depressed more, committing suicide more often, and why one in four are on mental medication. Playing at just a few parts of the male role drives women to medication, drinking, and despair. It is womans ignorance of masculinity that they would ever dare to claim she was performing a father's role. No man would claim to do a mother's role, for he knows he could never be a mother. A dog may jump around and act like a cat, but it is still a dog.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“Charisma in this world is often just looking good and speaking well. Others merely project onto you what they want to believe to be true. Most people have superficial attachments and shallow thoughts, so the glib man can persuade many. One does not have to be a supreme salesman. No need to be a wizard with words. People clamor for a confident speaker that sounds the part. That your actions can deliver on words cements their allegiance. But even if you don’t become a leader yourself, you may find a key supporting role as a great communicator. Even before you speak, work on being a better listener and observer of cues in others. All messages must be tailored to the audience. In a group, there may be one listener who, if engaged, can turn the whole room towards your speech. Speak calmly, clearly and keep eye contact. Your voice is the voice of a leader confident in his capabilities and beliefs. Changes in tone should have a reason.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“Include extended family as much as possible in your child's life. Their personalities will develop more fully if you give them a variety of figures to interact with. Children are always watching. They watch as we talk and move and extrapolate what we are thinking. They copy strength. They cору what is pleasing and beautiful. They will think as you do, so think virtuous thoughts. A child that sees his father humble himself before God will learn that humbling himself before his parents is natural. Think of your studies, your physical activity, and prayer. If children see this, they will emulate it, and it will come naturally all their lives.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“Art must be a part of one's life. Ignore the filthy works trumpeted as art by our cultural mandarins. That is art that reflects our chaos and decay. It is art for a junk society. It is not for you. You seek truth and beauty. Are you an artist? Do you have talent? Even if long since practiced, bring back your talents. Practice again. Even an amateur can produce works that bring light to friends and family.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“Children are naturally curious. This world is new to them. Encourage this trait as a way to develop a curious intellect. Do not be short with the child that asks questions. Use humor to end a line of questioning when a child turns into a prosecutor. Children are always surprised, and their minds lose focus when an adult drops to their level. Children will ask you many questions, progressing from what to how to why. As a child is continuously learning, you too will have to stay continuously learning.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“Women are drawn to men who take risks. Not simply in the cultural memes of men on motorcycles, but in the scientific proof of their attraction to men with facial scars. The scars signal risk-taking, proof that the man survived a challenge and maybe even left a foe for the worse.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“Two out of three men are overweight. Look at your family and circle of friends. Is there a pattern? On which piece of the pie chart are you? Walking the earth 20 or 40 pounds overweight is a series of steps. It does not happen overnight, or else we would see media reports about the phenomenon of midnight body ballooning. Each man sitting there grossly overweight made a thousand small choices to get to that point. He sat when he could stand. He chose to ride rather than walk. He chose to walk rather than run. He had one more serving. He had one more handful of chips. He had one cookie at three oclock. After years,the doctor tells him he has a problem and he wonders how he got there. He lacked mindfulness. He did not pay attention to his immediate choices. He lost awareness and was mindlessly consuming and slogging through his days. That man watched as the man in the mirror looked back at him in worse and worse condition, but he failed to act.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“Many a blue-collar father's dream is that his son never has to sweat or break his back on the job. His son can avoid the daily grind he endured. It was a well-intentioned hope for an easier future. What those fathers did not imagine was that their sons would lose all of those skills that generations of fathers found perfunctory. Those fathers did not imagine their sons would find emptiness and no sense of accomplishment in their comfortable, air-conditioned offices. There is no satisfaction in ten percent close ratios, contract evaluations, or supply chain management that compares to a newly-painted home, an assembled engine, or a finished cabinet.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“Asking for help is not just to alleviate our loads, mental and physical, but to offer other men the opportunity to help. In these instances,a son has the opportunity to prove growing skills and strength. A friend or coworker can prove their personal skills are handy. They show value in a world where we are never quite sure where we stand. To deny these opportunities is to prevent the full expression of your fellow man. They do not reduce your standing as an individual or as a part of the family or community.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“These were the men that roamed forests for food. They hunted with equipment that gave their prey great odds. They set foot in lands with no guides or maps. They realized that sometimes torches and pitchforks were necessary when grievances to the king would take too long or go unanswered. Your ancestors were men that were not afraid to take action with their own hands, with their brothers and neighbors, and to suffer the consequences. This was their order, their way, and their set of norms. This is not our way, as we are more civilized. What is civilized about enduring the small cuts or humiliations at the hands of an indifferent system and malicious individuals? We are more cowardly. There are countless other behaviors that we engage in that are uncivilized or degraded from those old days that no amount of legal restraint is going to make up for us to claim superiority. We are mollified. We are pacified. We have been conned into the belief that words on paper mean that the men behind them do not matter.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“How many children are spoiled and grow to be incapable adults because a father could not say no? The child given everything melts down in adulthood when they meet the grinder of reality. Strategic nos would have saved them future pain. If a child melts down, remove the child from the room. The child may say,“I don't love you anymore."Answer, "Good for you." Be sure to remind them of that statement the next hour or day when they do declare their love for you.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“In the realm of love, there is a difference between the man who falls hard for a woman and the man who chases love, giving his own at the slightest return. Both love. Both can be passionate. One is a man who is himself and has found a person with whom he can transcend the mundane. The other is a man who has crafted a persona to emulate some contrived role.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“If you claim to want a family, then you must seek a woman who wants a family. She may not say so at 22, but does she have the signs of a future mother? Place a baby in her arms. The more she looks at it and the less she looks at you holding the baby, the better. Watch her around children. Watch her around her grandparents. Watch her behavior when a friend is ill. Watch her with her dog. If a woman can dress up a dog and cry at its vet visits, she will cry for a child and already wants one, even if she doesn’t know it yet. She just has not found a man to lead her to motherhood, one who satisfied her primal standards.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“The manipulative mandarins create a culture that encourages the mocking of old ways, faith and knowing one's history. Many may mock you for following the old ways, but if they are not going on the same journey, their words are meaningless. Examine those who do mock you. Physically examine them. Do they exhibit an appealing aesthetic? Examine them from a mental or emotional standpoint. Is their path leading to superior results: Are they tossed in the winds of chaos? Have they secretly replaced the old religion with a new self-centered and consumer-friendly one?”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“Even for a victorious man, to enter the duel came with consequences. Why was one's honor even considered in threat? To place oneself in the position to have to put one's life at risk for one's honor meant that poor choices had been made to expose oneself. Look around at male honor today. No brotherhood. Sniping and insults that have moved from the physical realm to the digital. Even the violence in our urban hellscapes has devolved from hand-to-hand combat to drive-by shootings. Youths defend supposed honor, for they hold nothing else of value, by shooting at one another's homes, basketball courts, or porches, catching innocents caught in the crossfire. Their women and children suffer the fatal blows that should be dealt the hood warriors. This is a symptom of lost honor among all men.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“Goals are eschewed by our culture. There is a chance for failure! We hide failure and never want anyone to feel the pain or shame of failing. All of life is designed for comfort and avoidance of displeasure. This starts at birth. This is why some children's sports leagues do not keep score. Many people rail against the idea of participation trophies, yet they
never think who the trophy is for. Is that trophy for the kid who knows he did not place or knows that he was last, or is it for the parent who does not want to think his or her child is bad at anything? This is society-wide and starts young. This only creates situations where entities cannot handle adversity and the first real brush with failure destroys a soul.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“What have they done? What have you done? How will you chose to honor them? Will people honor you? It is good to sing their praises, but hagiographies are children's tales. There is most likely something in every person you know who passes on in your lifetime that you share in common with them. Learn from their mistakes. Consider the errors they made. Think of their strengths and emulate them. To emulate and copy them is to honor their existence. This destroys the nihilists who argue how nothing is meaningful and everything is impermanent and useless.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“Listen to the wine-sipping man’s criticism, “It’s so easy with a rifle.” They then turn their head for the next three-minute political point. Those are the words of a person who has never woken up at 3AM to get dressed. They have never quietly walked trails in the woods, looking for signs and smelling for scents. They have never masked their own scent and been still for five minutes, let alone the hours of a hunt. They have never selected a spot to patiently wait or use a well-practiced call. They have never stalked anything that moved as fast as a car and spooked at the slightest sound. Easy is the word used by a man who never saw a beast and felt the rush in their body that this was their chance for the season. Had to carefully raise their rifle for their one shot. They have not done it and cannot do it, therefore they smear it as beneath them or barbaric. These practices of their ancestors and even the men that they may have known as children are to be mocked. It cannot simply be allowed to be. If not smeared with a negative label, others may elevate it above what they do.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“Someone will do something. An authority will take care of this. The law and the courts, maybe even the social media mob will grant you justice. In our feminized society, a consensus will be reached bestowing upon you some reward as the victim. These are all pleas. Everyone pleads to someone else for justice. The piece of paper may signal the system agreed, but you have to look in the mirror and believe it. When you assigned the power over to the authority to give you justice, you relinquished the right to declare something justice. It is their justice, not yours.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“Eloquence is a skill to work on, and it starts with simply overcoming apprehension and nervousness when speaking to a stranger. If you have been honing your skills and knowledge in different areas, you should be confident when speaking about them. The medium is the message, so the well-put-together man speaking eloquently about his passion or beliefs is a man that will entice others to follow him.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“If you see an obese man in the gym struggling on a treadmill or with a weight, do not mock him. Encourage him. At some moment, we all have been the new gym attendee. We all have been the out-of-shape man. We have all been the man placing light weights on bars to lift. We all have been the tired, weak man struggling not to look horrible at the new gym. Help your fellow brother return in February and feel that he is a member of the club.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“Like any craft and tradition, hunting too can be shared and passed down generations. From the dawn of man to our own age, the hunting party is a well-worn staple of masculinity. All hunting parties will have roles and rough hierarchy set into them. There is the man who organized the party, the experienced hunters who guide others, some who entertain and cook, and the new hunters that are not just gophers but the next generation to lead future trips. The hunting party creates inside jokes, stories that can only be known by those who attend, and fosters familial bonds. In our culture of chaos,a hunting trip allows for quiet moments that few get anywhere else with friends or family.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“No one is coming to save you. You can assume the mantle of authority in your life. Build a life around you and it becomes your realm. A moment of crisis or confrontation may endanger you or a loved one. Do you have that spark to react and defend your honor and territory? Have you lived so that others know what stakes you are willing to risk for your honor and loved ones? In these times, confrontations can come from anywhere. There is no order, so chaos begets more chance for disputes.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“Your existence is atop a pile of bones. Those bones are made up of the family that endured for you. Those bones include those of others that they fought for you. Those bones are made up of the animals that they hunted for sustenance for you. Honor their sacrifice. Do not forget that you are the end result of their efforts. Become a part of the house that is your name. Contribute your stone to the glorious tradition that has been bequeathed to you. Be the caretaker for the next generation. Become the model for those of the next generation. Teach the next generation about your ancestors. Teach them about the role models from your childhood. Did someone fight in a war or build a home? Was one a carpenter, painter, tradesman or artist? Did someone plan cities and build roads? Art and tradition are not simply created, but must be maintained and cultivated so that the next generation understands their meaning.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“A man of physical strength can destroy his enemies. A man of mental strength can outwit his enemies. Men of strength, whether mental or physical, are men at their fullest potential. These men striving for the peak of physical aesthetics will attract followers. No one follows a weak, soft man. Men seek an iron will and iron physique. Like iron, your training is born of study, fire, and hammering. You pound and beat your body to mold it into the proper form to strike at a decadent world.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“No is not purely a negative. No is considered a bad thing in our permissive society. The no for you can be a savior. Glory-hound coworkers ask for your help and you know they won’t credit you? No, that is your project. Friend is getting a vasectomy before he even marries? No, I will not validate your odd choices. Single mom declares on social media she does a father’s work? No, you aren’t even a good mom. This man feels like a woman sometimes but other times feels like a man so they have a continuously changing set of names? No, and maybe get some help.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“What good did all the surveillance technology do for te victim? Where is the victim's father? Where is his agency? What is his power and influence? Where is his circle of family and friends? The perpetrator has a family. In days of old, this would have been settled by the families. Instead, the pity social media post goes up, dad buys his kid a toy, and the world moves on. A familial act of justice would prevent the next stomping for another child, but that is barbaric.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness

“How many fathers pay no mind to their daughter's clothes? How many care not when the police drop her off after finding her somewhere? How many have no sense of the shame or potential shame brought on their homes? They do not care, but for the moment, a permanent reminder of their failure, a new baby, enters the home. Then the household swarms to protect. This is a maternal move. Often, the father is enraged, but his wife tells him they will provide for this new child. This only encourages more dishonorable behavior.Who is watching the babies of young single moms? The grandparents will care for it and raise the bastard child because it is the right thing, the honorable thing to do. A good father helps in this moment. Honor matters then, but it is a fraud. It is a crystal statue that shatters when the smallest of observers knock on it. “Where were you for the days,week,months and years leading up to that moment," we might ask. "Where was your honor then?" No one asks this because it would be rude. Such a comment implies a functioning community with corrective mechanisms, but it would be shouted down in this matriarchal culture that celebrates single mothers.”
― Ryan Landry, Masculinity Amidst Madness