Amy Chan > Quotes

“Repeat after me: I only invest my energy into people who invest in me. I only date people who intentionally want to get to know me. I do not chase people and try to convince them to like me.”
― Amy Chan, Breakup Bootcamp: The Science of Rewiring Your Heart

“There is no such thing as failure in love. Relationships end, but they don’t fail. Love is only a failure when you don’t learn and you don’t try.”
― Amy Chan, Breakup Bootcamp: The Science of Rewiring Your Heart

“When you’re constantly taking care of the emotions of others, you avoid having to face your own.”
― Amy Chan

“Gratitude is a choice. Happiness is an attitude.”
― Amy Chan

“f you shift your perspective and stop expecting your relationship is supposed to MAKE you happy, you stop giving your power to someone else. You'll stop feeling entitled that it's someone's responsibility to make you feel good”
― Amy Chan, Breakup Bootcamp: The Science of Rewiring Your Heart

“If you want to know someone, just look at who they choose to spend their time with.”
― Amy Chan

“You may not be able to change the events of your history, but you can change the story you’ve attached to those events.”
― Amy Chan

“Design your life.”
― Amy Chan

“Our greatest lesson in this lifetime is to practice opening our hearts, even when it hurts.

Especially when it hurts.”
― Amy Chan, Breakup Bootcamp: The Science of Rewiring Your Heart

“And in a time when your heart is aching, to hold compassion for yourself as well as for the person who hurt you—that is love.”
― Amy Chan, Breakup Bootcamp: The Science of Rewiring Your Heart

“you want to move forward into a new way of living, then the goal is to focus your energy on yourself—not the person who hurt you.”
― Amy Chan, Breakup Bootcamp: The Science of Rewiring Your Heart

“I do not want to fall in love. I want to stand in love.”
― Amy Chan, Breakup Bootcamp: The Science of Rewiring Your Heart

“If someone is distancing, do not let this take away your awesome! Do not fall into the trap of analyzing what is wrong with you or blaming yourself.”
― Amy Chan, Breakup Bootcamp: The Science of Rewiring Your Heart

“Tracy, just like so many women, had been conditioned to be nurturing and to tend to the needs of others since girlhood. We grow up socialized to think that giving nonstop is what makes us a great girlfriend, wife, or mother. Even when we’re gasping for our last breath, we put the oxygen mask on others first. But while we’re out trying to win the martyr badge of honor, we don’t realize that we’re just avoiding dealing with our own stuff. You see, when you’re constantly taking care of the emotions of others, you don’t have to face your own. How convenient!”
― Amy Chan, Breakup Bootcamp: The Science of Rewiring Your Heart