Crystal Evans > Quotes

“I am a diamond in the rut. A diamond to an untrained eye looks like a rock stone. So men will kick it around on the ground. It takes a man with an expert eye for fine Jewelry to notice its worth. Do not feel bad when men treat you like the little boys in Africa who gave away stones in exchange for candy. The hungry boys thought they were getting something better but had exchange wealth for a sugar high. Some men will do that. Exchange a valuable woman for the transient high of another. The boys didn't know better and so do some of these men. They don't know your worth.”
― Crystal Evans, Ten Things Your Mother Should Have Told You about Dating

“Life is not profound without its own tragedy. It humbles us. Sets the bar for our introspection. Keeps us from believing we are gods. Puts our egos in check.”
― Crystal Evans

“A lot of elders complain that they do not know what is wrong with today's black generation. I beg to ask them what was wrong with theirs? Children don't become what you want, they become who you are. Our elders should reflect upon what went wrong during the era when today's young adults were children. Maybe just maybe they might find the answers to the problems of this "generation". They are equally responsible for this "money over everything mindset that breeds the young people they condemn.They raised a world of children who know the price of everything but the value of nothing. A money grabbing, instant gratification over profundity seeking and "step pon them" culture of people.”
― Crystal Evans, Jamaican Acute Ghetto Itis

“Don't turn a good dude who is loyal to his chick into a bad nigga by throwing yourself at him when he is already committed. Know when to stay the hell away.Good men are rare. If he aint single, don't make him unfaithful. Oh Yes, he might cheat with some other chick. It does not have to be you.”
― Crystal Evans, Ten Things Your Mother Should Have Told You about Dating

“I made a man out of you, you made a joke out of me.”
― Crystal Evans, The Bunna Man: Joe Grind Series

“There are people in this world whose central focus is to permeate cruelty with little regard for their own karmic penalties. Love is such a powerful emotion and overriding sentiment that it is unfathomable that life's most potent muse has escaped the psyche of so many of our men.

I can't understand why somebody would think it is okay to rip two hundred and thirty girls from their families. I wonder who condones this type of behavior. I often look at children and wonder what they will become, I stare at school boys, babies and even the bareback boys on the street and wonder if in a few years one of these children might take my life.

With that thought I am forced to wonder what might have gone wrong in their lives, what values did their parents impress upon them that made them morph into the brutish adults they have become. I wonder if their parents know about their atrocious acts and if they understand that they might be responsible for creating these monsters who in my opinion should have never seen the light of life.”
― Crystal Evans, Jamaican Acute Ghetto Itis

“The person who judges you without getting to know you has revealed nothing about you but exposes everything about himself to the world. The prudent one knows that true knowledge is not born out of ignorance but a desire to know before casting judgement.”
― Crystal Evans, Mama Brown's Family

“My Favorite rapper Tupac Shakur.. Philosophical... The emotional depth of his lyricism. Rest in peace. So sad when I listen your music. I understand the struggle, I know exactly how you feel... Been there a million times. Wanting to change the world and Everytime you speak up, only your echo answers you back”
― Crystal Evans

“I Write books for the little girl in the adult woman who some man told she was not good enough. Let us dismantle the notion that a woman cannot be free with her sexuality or that she needs a man to make her complete. This one is for the little girls with hearts on their sleeves.”
― Crystal Evans

“Never be done by one experience.
Lovers who broke your heart
Friends who betrayed you
Family that let you down
Opportunities \ jobs that never worked out.
Whole heap a people you still have not met yet
Whole heap a places you haven't been.
The best may yet still to come.”
― Crystal Evans, Every Man Deserves A Good Jacket II: Babydaddy Series

“I tell my christian relatives that "churchianity" is the central reason the church is not teeming with young people. The hypocrisy within the church is not concealed from this growing, informed generation. The arrogance among church goers is unnerving, Jesus was such a humble individual to begin with, he did not discriminate.”
― Crystal Evans, Mama Brown's Family

“Part of the desire to see each other succeed is to stop putting a price on success.”
― Crystal Evans, Jamaican Acute Ghetto Itis

“I keep saying that i wish our black women would not stop raising their sons to be like the niggas who left them. I see mothers covering for their deadbeat sons, putting some other child's mother through the same shit, her babyfather put her through.
We have spent the last few decades blaming absentee fathers for the lack of "graces" among our young men forgetting that they are raised by women. Women have always been other women's worst enemies. Maybe we need to start asking our mothers, what have they been doing wrong. Trying to smother the only man who won't leave them cause he can't, hes biologically linked to her. Trying to make up for the men who dumped her.
Raising monstrous, spoiled brats and then unleashing them on the female population. What we have today is a culture of men raised like daughters who do not know how to be a partner, a man and a father.”
― Crystal Evans, The Bunna Man: Joe Grind Series

“I never set out to bash men, it is not about revenge, I always say at the end of a relationship that i hope that i have created a better man for the next woman by what i allowed and reinforced
Crystal Evans
The Bunna Man”
― Crystal Evans, The Bunna Man: Joe Grind Series

“It is funny how we often want what we cannot have. What do we do in these prickly moments of disorientation and despair? we plunge in for one dance with our tormentor or we ignore our feelings, hoping in time, they will fade away..”
― Crystal Evans, His Property

“When you are a success, your old friends will boast of your accomplishments and your new friends will celebrate your achievements. Your old friends will say " i knew you when you were.." Don't worry about them, their story ends there.”
― Crystal Evans

“you see a nigga won't give a good girl shit yet he will spend his last dime trying to make a bad girl his bitch. He will go broke trying to trap some whore into a monogamous relationship”
― Crystal Evans, Ten Things Your Mother Should Have Told You about Dating

“The people who don't give you a standing ovation for the hurdles you cross are just afraid that you might win the race. They do not cheer you but they sit, lurking on the sidelines, biting their fingernails hoping you will stumble before the end. They secretly wish you will never win this race. But watch out for them, they will be the firstto stand and cheer you when you stand on that podium of success.”
― Crystal Evans, Jamaican Acute Ghetto Itis

“The truth is ladies...Good men are an endangered specie. So if you have a good man dont shuffle your KING for a JOKER.”
― Crystal Evans

“To be completely honest about your flaws is the only liberation from feelings of inferiority, inadequacy and external manipulation. Your happiness is only a change of conviction away.”
― Crystal Evans , Ten Things Your Mother Should Have Told You about Dating

“I think in life there is only one absolute truth.

Death... It's the only definitive horizon, sometime it leaps, runs across mountains and vanishes beyond oceans but the closer you get, the more you see and you know it is the final destination, the absolute truth. We are only living to die.”
― Crystal Evans

“Some relationships are like glass its better to leave them broken than to hurt yourself trying to put the pieces back together again.
When you start reading the Bunna Man, most of my readers hate Dre and then they realize that Dre doesn't really have any power. The only power he has is the one Saf gave him. What happens now is that by you reach the middle of the story, your anger turns from Dre to Saf cause you realize that Saf is the catalyst behind her own misery. If she'd leave Dre alone. Her suffering would end”
― Crystal Evans, The Bunna Man: Joe Grind Series

“Weirdest things in life are how people always create lofty ideals for you yet set average standards for themselves. People have always judged me above standard because of my brilliance not understanding that I came from unborn opportunities like them and was never in my estimation given any special tools for them to expect more from me than they expect from themselves. In hindsight people only place you on a pedestal so they can in the end tear you down.

We spend our entire lives judging ourselves against others. If we measure people and they fall short we believe we are license to
Insult them and tear them down. If they buoy on a float of accomplishments, we begin to feel small within ourselves and murmur about our own inadequacies.”
― Crystal Evans

“The burden is not my experiences it is my intellect. The way my brain works. My experiences are very similar to most if not all of us born into unfavorable circumstances. We survive and excel. It’s my purview that makes me think something is wrong wid it: for most people. That’s just life.”
― Crystal Evans, Jamaican Acute-Ghetto-itis: Jamaican Sociological Commentary

“People wonder how even in a current state of heartache, disappointed and depression, I still move on without people who don’t benefit me.
Necessity is the rule of intention. I’ve mastered it. Be intentional in everything you do.”
― Crystal Evans, The Fairy Tale Complex

“There will always be women less than and greater than me. I can’t live my life to be in competition with every woman. I don’t want to hate femihood. I don’t want to sabotage it either. I don’t want to hate myself. Yes there will be women more beautiful, sexier, desirable, smarter than I am. But I am me. Uniquely me.”
― Crystal Evans, Tall Dark and Bad : Full Edition

“Life is a sum of our choices.
You do something and i react, you do it long enough, my reaction changes.
Education, childhood memories, disappointments, some of us are helpless to our experiences.
One single moment in your life could mean the very difference between me and you.
Selah”
― Crystal Evans, The Bunna Man: Joe Grind Series

“I take a very long time to let go of a man.
Why?
Because I am one of those types that lead by my ego and not my heart.
I don’t think women lead by their hearts.
I think they make decisions whether to stay or leave based on ego.

Women have bigger egos than men.
Women don’t leave men because of heart break. They leave men when their egos are bruised. When he does something that shatters her pride and make her feel exposed… like she feel like it’s apparent and everybody know he doesn’t rate or love her.

It’s the same reason why a man will cheat and a woman stays with him once he makes it clear that her position has not been altered or usurped. Same goes for having an outside kid.

He kept her ego in tact.
She will ride on that ego until she is so ashamed of his behavior.
Until she finds his actions so reducing and minimizing.

Then her pride won’t allow her to stay… with him anymore.”
― Crystal Evans, 100 Dating Tips for Jamaican Women

“Long paragraphs since I am not playing games…
Long paragraphs so people know what they did…
Long paragraphs so people understand.
There are no misunderstanding…
Long paragraphs so the margin for error is clear…
Long paragraphs so I can gauge your emotional literacy.
Long paragraphs so I can have a post conversation autopsy.
Long paragraphs to prevent any misconceptions…
Long paragraphs is my catharsis… exorcism”
― Crystal Evans, Rubicon

“One of my perceived weaknesses is that I am not a confrontational person. I am not bellicose and belligerent. I am not quarrelsome and warlike and people who are like this, loud and vulgar and toxic think they are strong and people like me are weak. Go around spewing venom and vitriol. Bullies think calm people are weak.

But they don’t know where my strength lies.
Everything that I am is born out of this quiet, humble and pacific nature.

Bullies only set themselves up as targets.
Bullies don’t do self work.
Bullies aren’t introspective.
Bullies are too busy trying to cower others down and point fingers.
Bullies don’t make peace, they don’t want peace, peace confuses them.
Bullies can’t walk alone.
Bullies thrive in groups.
They need cheerleaders.

I am almost always alone…”
― Crystal Evans, The Country Gyal Journal