Jamaican Writer Quotes

“The person who judges you without getting to know you has revealed nothing about you but exposes everything about himself to the world. The prudent one knows that true knowledge is not born out of ignorance but a desire to know before casting judgement.”
― Crystal Evans, Mama Brown's Family

“We are children of the world. Travel starts in our minds; we can visit all our “Irie” places and then command our feet to follow”
― Janet Autherine, Island Mindfulness: How to Use the Transformational Power of Mindfulness to Create an Abundant Life

“The difference between you and I Dre is that i can take a bad experience and make money off it, You just have to live with yours until time blurs your memory of the details.
Most writers i know aren't beautiful by society's standard. Writing is not modelling but Writer's do have beautiful souls.”
― Crystal Evans, The Bunna Man: Joe Grind Series

“One of my perceived weaknesses is that I am not a confrontational person. I am not bellicose and belligerent. I am not quarrelsome and warlike and people who are like this, loud and vulgar and toxic think they are strong and people like me are weak. Go around spewing venom and vitriol. Bullies think calm people are weak.

But they don’t know where my strength lies.
Everything that I am is born out of this quiet, humble and pacific nature.

Bullies only set themselves up as targets.
Bullies don’t do self work.
Bullies aren’t introspective.
Bullies are too busy trying to cower others down and point fingers.
Bullies don’t make peace, they don’t want peace, peace confuses them.
Bullies can’t walk alone.
Bullies thrive in groups.
They need cheerleaders.

I am almost always alone…”
― Crystal Evans, The Country Gyal Journal

“There will always be women less than and greater than me. I can’t live my life to be in competition with every woman. I don’t want to hate femihood. I don’t want to sabotage it either. I don’t want to hate myself. Yes there will be women more beautiful, sexier, desirable, smarter than I am. But I am me. Uniquely me.”
― Crystal Evans, Tall Dark and Bad : Full Edition

“Your best moment where you are praised have to be maintained by the unwritten condition of you doing something greater or as good as the last time. Everything in life is conditional .”
― Crystal Evans, The Fairy Tale Complex

“The most direct way that I can define advantage in our society—is that it's an allowable difference in the margin of error necessary to succeed.

You could have two people, seemingly side by side, while one is there because they scraped and clawed and rarely misstepped, while the other person tripped their way to the same position.

For the disadvantaged are not allowed to speak on it or talk about their struggles to get where they are at.
What you did with that disadvantage has no bearing on whether it existed or not.
People like myself have to face obstacles but are also given a tiny margin of error…
We are not allowed to fail or to make mistakes.”
― Crystal Evans, Blood Money: The Scammer and The Ex-slave Owner

“The way a relationship dies between a man and I has always been insidious of sorts. It’s like sometime last year or a few years before. The love develops gangrene. The man either doesn’t love me or care enough to apply antidote to prevent further decay. So it decays. Before he knows it. The love is dead and I’ve already buried us. The thing with gangrene is if I seek treatment, I can only stop it from spreading by cutting the gangrenous part off. Like the love I once felt for him. I am now confused. But you get the drift.”
― Crystal Evans, 100 Dating Tips for Jamaican Women

“I take a very long time to let go of a man.
Why?
Because I am one of those types that lead by my ego and not my heart.
I don’t think women lead by their hearts.
I think they make decisions whether to stay or leave based on ego.

Women have bigger egos than men.
Women don’t leave men because of heart break. They leave men when their egos are bruised. When he does something that shatters her pride and make her feel exposed… like she feel like it’s apparent and everybody know he doesn’t rate or love her.

It’s the same reason why a man will cheat and a woman stays with him once he makes it clear that her position has not been altered or usurped. Same goes for having an outside kid.

He kept her ego in tact.
She will ride on that ego until she is so ashamed of his behavior.
Until she finds his actions so reducing and minimizing.

Then her pride won’t allow her to stay… with him anymore.”
― Crystal Evans, 100 Dating Tips for Jamaican Women

“Being the recipient of unrequited love gave me an insight into how people might feel or think who are not that into me.
It made me realize it’s best to let go of a person that doesn’t really want me.
I keep thinking how I feel about the person that likes me and I can’t reciprocate, is exactly how an individual who doesn’t want me feels about me.
RSS SSS
I can’t shake it.
I don’t want to be around anyone that feels that way about me.
A point I explored in my Yakima book.

I think objection of my affection feels the same way about me like I do the person I don’t really like and it’s an overall sickening feeling.

I felt disgusted and I repelled the person who liked me and when I was around them, I wanted them to leave. I tolerated them because I didn’t want to hurt them but I secretly pitied them.

I wish they would move on and find someone to love them and leave me alone.
The more they tried, the more suffocated I felt and imprisoned.
I wanted what I wanted and I didn’t care.
It’s just not you and I don’t know how to change that.

No amount of good treatment from them or logic made me change my mind about the way I felt about him.
It wasn’t him.
That’s finale.

Here is a more twisted part of the story.
When he did, I wish they still loved me but only on my terms when I wanted to see them, when I had time for them. When I could tolerate it.
It’s not that I don’t want him to love me.
I only wanted it when I want it.
Not all the time.

Through unrequited love, l've gained a deeper ... understanding of the importance of mutual interest in relationships. l've learned to acknowledge when someone's enthusiasm isn't reciprocated and to release connections that lack genuine investment. I empathize with those who experience unrequited love, just as I do with the person who admires me without reciprocation. This insight has empowered me to prioritize authentic connections and explore the complexities of love in my Yakima book.”
― Crystal Evans, Yakima

“It would seem that my hypothesis on linguistic intelligence being paraded as “brightness” went viral. In my country , a number of persons who have mastered the English language have discredited my intellect on the basis of grammar and linguistics. My thesis did underscore that true intellects can create new disciplines, theories and “synthesize” fundamental truths and concepts. True intellects have high social, emotional and intelligent quotients. They operate at a higher cognitive order because they are able to underpin foundational knowledge along with comprehension and thus develop complex ways of thinking. They have higher cognitive skills and functioning. A true intellect can move their audience in any language be it patois or English because their usage of words and delivery always resonates with the listener and reader. Their output makes you think, wonder, say … wow, I’ve never looked at it that way before. It doesn’t involve gloating or conceit. Pure complex yet revolutionized reasoning and speaking.”
― Crystal Evans, Jamaican Acute-Ghetto-itis: Jamaican Sociological Commentary

“I've tried to hold space for change... even that for me felt like i was forcing, forcing myself to accept something I wasn't comfortable with. Love makes us act strange..and excitement can feel like pressure and passion can feel like obsession..so best to just sit back calmly..and let them do what they need to do. Then i forced myself to eventually to do the same.”
― Crystal Evans, The Bunna Man Trilogy

“If a guy is more committed to a process end game that signals “not you” than he is to winning your affection then he doesn’t want you.
Simpler terms. If when you fall out he can go weeks or months without speaking to you.
Yet when you were on good terms he could not commit to seeing you and speaking to you every day. He didn’t like you.
If he is more committed to the process of cutting you off than he was trying to gain your affection.
He doesn’t like you.”
― Crystal Evans, 100 Dating Tips for Jamaican Women

“Sometimes you don’t get that aesthetic or gratifying person you think you need. Sometimes too, you find out that your ideal doesn’t do what you think it will do for you.
We all experience that.
Men and women.
What you find in the non-type is peace you could never imagine, support, companionship, teamwork, partnership.
This might be the reason why arrange marriages work.
- Rubicon”
― Crystal Evans, 100 Dating Tips for Jamaican Women

“A childhood scar is not a birth mark”
― Crystal Evans

“Man shares his opinion on me:
Man: I think you are delusional

Me: Is that propositional logic
Me: Or predicate logic or your ego transposing some excuse/reason/premise to why you can’t have me the way you want…

You have only known me for a few days…
And you only know what I tell you or show you…
”
― Crystal Evans, The Bunna Man Trilogy

“Don’t feel bad when people underestimate you. When you are underestimated, people write you off before you begin. They don’t expect much of you. So you are granted an ecosystem to fail and start as much as you can without the burden of higher expectations or an audience… you gain power when you succeed right under their nose.”
― Crystal Evans, The Fairy Tale Complex: Extended Edition

“I am the alchemical moth—unseen, uncelebrated, yet weaving silk while the world chases butterflies. Unnoticed in the dark. I weave silk, I master fire, and I survive where beauty alone would perish.”
― Crystal Evans

“No contact is not for the other person. It’s for you. It’s a form of discipline, character development and test of resilience… ♥️♥️♥️ I’ve done it more than times than i would want to… each time me come out emotionally stronger. It’s crazy… it’s liberating actually ”
― Crystal Evans, The Bunna Man Trilogy