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Cedar R. Koons
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The Mindfulness Solution for Intense Emotions: Take Control of Borderline Personality Disorder with DBT
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2016
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6 editions
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“When we feel we cannot tolerate emotional pain, we want desperately to escape. Our attention wanders to all the distractions available to us, such as food, alcohol, drugs, sleeping, eating, having suicidal thoughts, lashing out in anger, isolating—anything to avoid feeling the emotion. These temporary escapes are easy to access. We forget about the promises we’ve made to others or ourselves, we forget the long-term consequences of these “solutions,” and we fall victim to old patterns. By design and linked to our survival mechanisms, emotions function to get our attention and organize us to act in accordance (Ratey 2001). The very nature of emotion makes it difficult to focus the mind on anything else.”
― The Mindfulness Solution for Intense Emotions: Take Control of Borderline Personality Disorder with DBT
― The Mindfulness Solution for Intense Emotions: Take Control of Borderline Personality Disorder with DBT
“Environments become invalidating when they fail to protect you or neglect your basic needs. Environments for children invalidate when they regularly communicate that their needs, feelings, and preferences are bad, or wrong, or otherwise lack validity”
― The Mindfulness Solution for Intense Emotions: Take Control of Borderline Personality Disorder with DBT
― The Mindfulness Solution for Intense Emotions: Take Control of Borderline Personality Disorder with DBT
“Keep a gratitude journal. The mind tends to focus on problems to be solved rather than on what is working. Change this up by starting a gratitude journal. At least once a week write in your journal about the things for which you are grateful. Leave complaining out of this journal! This practice increases the likelihood that you will notice positives in your life, a skill that will reduce your vulnerability to emotion mind. Track your worries (Behar et al. 2009). Each week write down the top three worries in your mind and rate them as to how likely they are to happen. Once a month review your list and see how many of the things you worried about did or did not become problems. Chances are you will find a higher percentage of your worries never manifested. Reflect on the usefulness of constant worrying. Look for ways to make lemonade (Linehan 1993a). As the saying goes, “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.” Reflect on things in your life that have seemed like lemons at the time (such as a divorce) that ended up being lemonade (allowing you to find a happier relationship). Try to find opportunities in your daily life to make lemonade out of disappointments or reversals.”
― The Mindfulness Solution for Intense Emotions: Take Control of Borderline Personality Disorder with DBT
― The Mindfulness Solution for Intense Emotions: Take Control of Borderline Personality Disorder with DBT
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