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Did you date an addict?
Life in the cloud is beautiful in fantasies, but hard in a reality. Imagine that you are focused only on one thing, instead of many duties and obligations you should do the next day. That one thing is your addiction. Ask yourself, did you ever forget to eat because in your mind was only a cigarette? Did you forget to pick up kids from school because you got drunk? Maybe you did not come at a date because you were gambling. Even it sounds really bad and irresponsible, these are characteristics of addicts.
I will not talk about a medicinal basis because I have no expert knowledge about this. I wish to talk about something I saw from my experience.
These are patterns of behavior when you met with the addict.
A drunk person, a gambler, the internet freak and other addicts have many things in common.
Family, parents, job or friends are on the margin.
This kind of addicts don’t care for a real world, their world is parallel space. A day is passing with glasses of wine or another alcoholic beverage, with wins on the casino or with a number of messages on the internet pages.
They are sleepless.
Once when you discover a secret “cure” for your problems, you will ask for that in any part of the day. The cell phone is under the bed, and you need to turn it on, to see if someone sent you a message. Let’s smoke because we can’t sleep. Let’s eat, something is in the fridge.
They neglect their partners.
You sit with that kind of person in a coffee bar and he is typing on a cell phone constantly. He is broke. without money and he doesn’t want to hear to leave the casino, cause he will win this time. Any advice is useless.
They cross their limits and risk.
When you are addicted, you will do everything to come and take your medicine. You will run for a source. If your source is the casino, you will run there in hope to get money. If your source is a cybersex, you will open the internet just to see your naked lover. If your source is a cigarette, you will spend last money on a tobacco.
They hurt another people, even without the intention.
Would you steal other’s lover for the sake of the own pleasure? Would you steal money to gamble? Would you leave from work, just to drink alcohol in a coffee bar near? If yes, you are addicted.
The addict seems like a weak person who doesn’t care about reality. If you think that the addicted person is someone in rags, dirty and poor, you are misguided. They are between us. Your boss is maybe the person who is addicted to Xanax. Your colleague can be a cyber freak, and your cooperator could be a drunk man who hides his addiction successfully.
The addiction is indeed a denial. You refuse to accept that you have a problem which should be solved in another way because the solution is not in the bottom of a glass. We are all close to the bottom. One or two bad crises, you wish to get drunk, smoke or to send everything into a hell.
Lena is a smoker. She is doing her work well, but she is under the stress. When her boss is unbearable, she is going out to smoke. A day by day, she is smoking more, because every time there is a reason that she must light a fire. She is coughing, but her addiction takes over.
When we assemble the union with the devil called the addiction, we are fooled that everything will look better. Maybe at that moment, when we are drunk or stoned, the reality is pinker. Problems are still there and they will not disappear if we don’t face it.
When you are in a relationship with the addict, you are with two persons. One is original and you love her. Another person is a clone, but the evil twin. That person stands between you two because she is grumpy, moody and ready to destroy everything. You need to set free your love from a slavery because that is the only way to get her back.
I will not talk about a medicinal basis because I have no expert knowledge about this. I wish to talk about something I saw from my experience.
These are patterns of behavior when you met with the addict.
A drunk person, a gambler, the internet freak and other addicts have many things in common.
Family, parents, job or friends are on the margin.
This kind of addicts don’t care for a real world, their world is parallel space. A day is passing with glasses of wine or another alcoholic beverage, with wins on the casino or with a number of messages on the internet pages.
They are sleepless.
Once when you discover a secret “cure” for your problems, you will ask for that in any part of the day. The cell phone is under the bed, and you need to turn it on, to see if someone sent you a message. Let’s smoke because we can’t sleep. Let’s eat, something is in the fridge.
They neglect their partners.
You sit with that kind of person in a coffee bar and he is typing on a cell phone constantly. He is broke. without money and he doesn’t want to hear to leave the casino, cause he will win this time. Any advice is useless.
They cross their limits and risk.
When you are addicted, you will do everything to come and take your medicine. You will run for a source. If your source is the casino, you will run there in hope to get money. If your source is a cybersex, you will open the internet just to see your naked lover. If your source is a cigarette, you will spend last money on a tobacco.
They hurt another people, even without the intention.
Would you steal other’s lover for the sake of the own pleasure? Would you steal money to gamble? Would you leave from work, just to drink alcohol in a coffee bar near? If yes, you are addicted.
The addict seems like a weak person who doesn’t care about reality. If you think that the addicted person is someone in rags, dirty and poor, you are misguided. They are between us. Your boss is maybe the person who is addicted to Xanax. Your colleague can be a cyber freak, and your cooperator could be a drunk man who hides his addiction successfully.
The addiction is indeed a denial. You refuse to accept that you have a problem which should be solved in another way because the solution is not in the bottom of a glass. We are all close to the bottom. One or two bad crises, you wish to get drunk, smoke or to send everything into a hell.
Lena is a smoker. She is doing her work well, but she is under the stress. When her boss is unbearable, she is going out to smoke. A day by day, she is smoking more, because every time there is a reason that she must light a fire. She is coughing, but her addiction takes over.
When we assemble the union with the devil called the addiction, we are fooled that everything will look better. Maybe at that moment, when we are drunk or stoned, the reality is pinker. Problems are still there and they will not disappear if we don’t face it.
When you are in a relationship with the addict, you are with two persons. One is original and you love her. Another person is a clone, but the evil twin. That person stands between you two because she is grumpy, moody and ready to destroy everything. You need to set free your love from a slavery because that is the only way to get her back.
Lost in the virtual world
I am representing my first book, inspired by traps in the virtual world. The Internet is a place where people come to hang out or find love, but what they find is not always what they expected. Even people are behind their computers, their thoughts and expressions are alive. If you say something ugly you will not hurt just an Internet user, you will hurt someone's soul.
Why people commit a suicide because of something that is said on the Internet? You might ruin someone's life by a threat, an insult or your behavior. This is the age of cold-blooded and ruthless people. The Internet brings an updated version of Darwin's theory: only the strongest survive.
What reviewers said:
This is the first book by the popular blogger Kristina Gallo, and it’s a well-written, perceptive look at the problems encountered by people on social media. It’s a big subject to take on and won’t be the first to be written. Social media is a relatively new phenomenon and most people are still finding their way around it, discovering both the advantages and the pitfalls. Kristina covers everything from internet dating to fake identities, ‘virtual cheating’ and requests for nude photographs. What she describes will be familiar to many users of Facebook, particularly women. She also takes a good hard look at the many dangers that can befall the gullible and easily manipulated. Like the real world, the internet is a place full of very real dangers. A place where people are not as they seem. A place where people can be unpleasant and duplicitous. All in all, a very interesting read and one I’d recommend to anyone interested in this subject.
This is an intuitive narrative about how much our lives have changed with the development of the internet and social media – it certainly made me reassess my own. It is open and honest, as is the author about herself. It is entertaining and informative with a comprehensive account of the pitfalls we come across and is interspersed with real case studies. I particularly like the tongue in cheek humor that surfaced every once in a while, although the subject matter should be taken seriously and the pitfalls noted.
It is not written in the author’s first language but is none-the-less extremely accomplished and adds another dimension to the narrative in that it emphasizes the topics discussed in that we speak on the internet with people from other countries who are not quite so gifted as the author is in our own language.
I found it fascinating as someone who has been subjected to much of what is written, although not responded in quite the same way; it is still intriguing to know just how far some people will go.
This is a young person’s experience of the internet and I suspect a lot of these approaches have been experienced. There is, in fact, a whole raft of other experiences that older people come up against that the author, if not already experienced, will come into contact with, but not for a very long time.
This book is a MUST read for anyone using the internet. Lost in the virtual world
Why people commit a suicide because of something that is said on the Internet? You might ruin someone's life by a threat, an insult or your behavior. This is the age of cold-blooded and ruthless people. The Internet brings an updated version of Darwin's theory: only the strongest survive.
What reviewers said:
This is the first book by the popular blogger Kristina Gallo, and it’s a well-written, perceptive look at the problems encountered by people on social media. It’s a big subject to take on and won’t be the first to be written. Social media is a relatively new phenomenon and most people are still finding their way around it, discovering both the advantages and the pitfalls. Kristina covers everything from internet dating to fake identities, ‘virtual cheating’ and requests for nude photographs. What she describes will be familiar to many users of Facebook, particularly women. She also takes a good hard look at the many dangers that can befall the gullible and easily manipulated. Like the real world, the internet is a place full of very real dangers. A place where people are not as they seem. A place where people can be unpleasant and duplicitous. All in all, a very interesting read and one I’d recommend to anyone interested in this subject.
This is an intuitive narrative about how much our lives have changed with the development of the internet and social media – it certainly made me reassess my own. It is open and honest, as is the author about herself. It is entertaining and informative with a comprehensive account of the pitfalls we come across and is interspersed with real case studies. I particularly like the tongue in cheek humor that surfaced every once in a while, although the subject matter should be taken seriously and the pitfalls noted.
It is not written in the author’s first language but is none-the-less extremely accomplished and adds another dimension to the narrative in that it emphasizes the topics discussed in that we speak on the internet with people from other countries who are not quite so gifted as the author is in our own language.
I found it fascinating as someone who has been subjected to much of what is written, although not responded in quite the same way; it is still intriguing to know just how far some people will go.
This is a young person’s experience of the internet and I suspect a lot of these approaches have been experienced. There is, in fact, a whole raft of other experiences that older people come up against that the author, if not already experienced, will come into contact with, but not for a very long time.
This book is a MUST read for anyone using the internet. Lost in the virtual world
