Joseph J. Luciani's Blog
December 6, 2017
#SelfCoaching - Struggling? Maybe it's time to reprogram your brain
Fact: your brain only does what it is programmed to do. So, don’t blame your brain for your emotional struggles; blame the faulty programming that resulted from insecurity’s insistence that you over-control life. This need to “over-control” life is aided and abetted by the passivity of your conscious mind leaving you impotently sitting in the back seat (rather than in the front seat steering your life) while doubts, fears, and negative thinking swirl unchecked.
Just keep in mind that neuron by neuron, circuit by circuit, when you resist passivity and begin actively training yourself to live according to life’s facts rather than tainted emotional fictions, you are literally beginning the process of reprogramming your brain to go from struggle to solace.
FYI: This reprogramming of the brain is called neuroplasticity—the brain’s ability to change structurally through learning.
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Just keep in mind that neuron by neuron, circuit by circuit, when you resist passivity and begin actively training yourself to live according to life’s facts rather than tainted emotional fictions, you are literally beginning the process of reprogramming your brain to go from struggle to solace.
FYI: This reprogramming of the brain is called neuroplasticity—the brain’s ability to change structurally through learning.
www.selfcoaching.net
November 23, 2017
#SelfCoaching - A Thanksgiving Day thought
I recall seeing an interview of the Swiss psychiatrist C.G. Jung, shortly before his death. In the interview, Jung was asked whether or not he believed in god. Jung almost fell out of his chair as he responded in no uncertain terms, “I don’t believe, I know!
On this Thanksgiving Day, be thankful for your unlimited human resourcefulness to go beyond “believing” (which to me connotes a kind of hopeful anticipation of things to come), to a “knowing” that nothing can, or will, stop you from the life you want and the life you deserve. And once you "know" nothing will stop you, nothing will stop you.
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On this Thanksgiving Day, be thankful for your unlimited human resourcefulness to go beyond “believing” (which to me connotes a kind of hopeful anticipation of things to come), to a “knowing” that nothing can, or will, stop you from the life you want and the life you deserve. And once you "know" nothing will stop you, nothing will stop you.
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November 16, 2017
#SelfCoaching - What’s the difference between “normal” worry-anxiety and general anxiety disorder?
From a Self-Coaching perspective there are several differences between general anxiety disorder (GAD) and what we might call “normal” worry-anxiety.
First, those with GAD suffer from excessive worrying that typically interferes with everyday life functioning, while those dealing with normal worry-anxiety would not classify their anxieties as “excessive,” and might even perceive their worries as manageable since they are able to step apart from these worries when required to function with day-to-day demands.
Second, the worrying of those with GAD can occur without precipitant (i.e., a stressful, challenging circumstance), the quality of the worrying is more ruminative and distressing and will persist for a longer duration than normal worry-anxiety, and the range of worry-thoughts is less connected to a given circumstance and more diffuse in nature (finances, health, terrorism, etc.)
Third, those with GAD are more likely to report physical symptoms resulting from their constant worrying and related difficulties with their jobs, relationships, and other significant life demands.
General anxiety disorder is characterized by the following symptoms:
● Excessive worry and anxiety
● Fatigue
● Feeling irritable, testy, or grouchy much of the time
● Feeling restless, keyed up, or edgy
● Difficulty concentrating or forgetting
● Muscle tension
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First, those with GAD suffer from excessive worrying that typically interferes with everyday life functioning, while those dealing with normal worry-anxiety would not classify their anxieties as “excessive,” and might even perceive their worries as manageable since they are able to step apart from these worries when required to function with day-to-day demands.
Second, the worrying of those with GAD can occur without precipitant (i.e., a stressful, challenging circumstance), the quality of the worrying is more ruminative and distressing and will persist for a longer duration than normal worry-anxiety, and the range of worry-thoughts is less connected to a given circumstance and more diffuse in nature (finances, health, terrorism, etc.)
Third, those with GAD are more likely to report physical symptoms resulting from their constant worrying and related difficulties with their jobs, relationships, and other significant life demands.
General anxiety disorder is characterized by the following symptoms:
● Excessive worry and anxiety
● Fatigue
● Feeling irritable, testy, or grouchy much of the time
● Feeling restless, keyed up, or edgy
● Difficulty concentrating or forgetting
● Muscle tension
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November 7, 2017
November 2, 2017
#SelfCoaching - Are you putting your life on hold?
How many times have you heard yourself rationalizing, "Once I get some money and manage to have a vacation, then I'll relax." or, "I just need to lose some weight, then I'll be fine"? You'll never be happy if you feel you must first eliminate all the negatives in your life. Try as you might, there will always be something that's bothersome, challenging, or troubling in your day-to-day life.
The key to genuine, sustainable happiness is to stop putting your life on hold, waiting for the myth of a pristine future where everything will be in harmony. A good life doesn't start tomorrow; it starts now, right now! So stop focusing on what's wrong with your life and instead, begin focusing on what's right in your life. And if you can't find something right with your life, than look again! And again, until you see the opportunities and the good that surrounds you.
It's all about learning to live alongside your challenges, not immersed, drowning in them. Having a better life really is a here-and-now choice. What have you got to lose, other than your negativity?
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The key to genuine, sustainable happiness is to stop putting your life on hold, waiting for the myth of a pristine future where everything will be in harmony. A good life doesn't start tomorrow; it starts now, right now! So stop focusing on what's wrong with your life and instead, begin focusing on what's right in your life. And if you can't find something right with your life, than look again! And again, until you see the opportunities and the good that surrounds you.
It's all about learning to live alongside your challenges, not immersed, drowning in them. Having a better life really is a here-and-now choice. What have you got to lose, other than your negativity?
Follow Self-Coaching on:
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October 31, 2017
#SelfCoaching – What is insecurity and why should you care?
Insecurity attempts to prepare you for anticipated chaos. This is what we commonly refer to as worrying. After all, you don’t worry about things going right! As Mark Twain said, “I’ve suffered many catastrophes in my life. Most of them never happened.” A friend of mine told me about his mother’s even more poignant, but opposite, spin on this notion, “Don’t tell me worrying doesn’t work, most of the things I worry about never happen.” A person with adequate self-trust lives in the here-and-now moment with the confidence to believe that they can handle life as it unfolds. An insecure, untrusting person is either mired in past regrets or in anticipation of future chaos.
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October 4, 2017
#SelfCoaching - Building mind muscle
Like your body, your mind requires proper exercise. Like doing reps at a gym, every time you fight off a doubt, fear or negative and replace it with hope, courage or self-trust, you're developing muscle--mind muscle! And make no mistake, strength of mind precedes happiness, success and well-being.
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September 23, 2017
#SelfCoaching - Life's challenges
Every challenge, no matter how small, is an opportunity to grow in self respect, confidence, and self-trust. Every setback, no matter how significant, is an opportunity to grow in self-respect, confidence and self-trust. In the grand scheme life, there should be no regrets, only appreciation for the opportunities to grow toward our full potential.
Follow Self-Coaching on:
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Twitter: @SelfCoaching101
Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/Dr. Joe Luciani self-coaching
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Follow Self-Coaching on:
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Twitter: @SelfCoaching101
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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/DrJoeSel...
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