Jonathon Jones's Blog - Posts Tagged "romance"

Have you ever noticed how, with really old, obviously happily married couples that have hit their 80s-90s, the guy never seems to be the personality type that younger women would ever consider if that guy was 50-60 years younger and their own age?

I think they’re great examples of what women actually need for a relationship to survive that long. It’s not the overly macho/virile/non-stop/emotionally void or mysterious “supposedly exciting” beefcakes that end up with the woman till’ death do they part.

It’s the purse-holding “yes-dears” who are smiling and holding their hands with an intense emotional look of love in their eyes that never faded after umpteen years. Maybe you ladies should all stop to consider what that means when you go to choose when you’re younger.

Maybe us wussy but faithful, emotional lovey-dovey clingy types who DO love spending time with you as opposed to having a relationship with a beer can, the television set, gym equipment, or a random variety of females would be a much better way to go. It’s just something to think about.

In the world of dating, I find it interesting how one person can be considered trash by someone, but that same person can be viewed as a treasure by someone else. Yes, I said person. In relationships especially, it all seems to come down to perception.

I mean, it's funny how even negative-based words can mean something completely different to one person than they can another. For example, the words clingy, possessive, jealous, and controlling might make many flee for the hills, but those words might not have the same meaning for different types of people. I was discussing this with a female friend today, so I decided to reiterate my stance on the matter.

Let's start with clingy. To some people, they might think a person is being clingy when, in effect, that might just mean that the person in question loves spending a lot of time with them a LOT more than they want to spend time with that person. To others...those who are REALLY into the other person, they won't see that as clingy but, rather, that the other person adores them so much that they have trouble being apart from them. So, some people's "clingy" is another person's "they must really love me.

Or, in the case of being possessive....to those who think others are too possessive, it could just mean that "that" person who feels that way may want to still be single and do things they're not supposed to when they're in a relationship. Whereas a person who WANTS to be wanted just by that one person, well, they will adore the fact that someone else doesn't want anyone to have them, which indicates, to them, that they are definitely loved.

As for jealousy, to a person who thinks someone is too jealous, it COULD mean that the reason they're jealous is because the other person is not drawing the normal boundary lines within their relationship. If their s.o. is constantly talking on the phone with other men who are SINGLE, flirting in front of them, etc., then heck YEAH they're going to be jealous because the other person isn't making them feel safe and desired. So it's not always that a person is being too jealous but, sometimes, it was the other person not making them feel like their relationship was safe.

Or, in the case of control. One person's control is another person's "guiding" or, quite simply, them just saying what it will take in order to make them feel comfortable and/or safe. Just because a person desires something to happen a certain way in a relationship doesn't mean they're controlling. They're just wanting to feel comfortable. So one person's "controlling" is another person's "they just want to feel comfortable, so I understand why they're being like that."

So, it's all a matter of perception. Therefore, if you have a problem in a relationship, before you jump to the worst possible conclusions about a person, try to understand where they're coming from. It doesn't necessarily mean they're in the wrong, it just might mean that they feel differently about something, and the reason for it might not be so bad after all.

I’m looking for that perfect day. Most of you have probably experienced it at least one time in your life. When you meet someone for the first time and their words soothe you like a newborn baby in its mother’s arms. They are the sword of life that defeats loneliness. In but a mere heartbeat they remind you that you’re not the only one who likes what you like, or thinks how you think.

Your minds shake their invisible hands in agreement, your eyes constantly remain together in a sweet embrace, and the world finally seems right again. No more waiting. No more searching. Being with them is how you breathe. You feel alive once again, far from the endless sea of solitude.

It’s not a dream because I’ve tasted it. But something so great can never last if the unending selfishness of others keeps pushing this potential eternity from my grasp. So my hands remain open, with my arms forever outstretched. I yearn for that sweet, perfect day that will finally turn into a lifetime.

Solan is now available for purchase on both Amazon and Barnes and Noble.

Amazon:
http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00DQREY3I

Nook:
http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/solan...

Side note: (And shameless self plug..but hey, a guy has to eat, right?)

In addition to all of my Ebooks available on Amazon, Barnes and Noble, and Apple, I am slowly but surely making my books available in print format as well via Createspace. So far these are the ones that are also available in print format for those who like the feel of actual books.

Beneath the Bamboo: A Vietnam War Story:

https://www.createspace.com/4409277

Solan

https://www.createspace.com/4427789

What Men Really Want: An Online Dating Guide for Women (Geared more towards the 18-35 age range, but it does has helpful hints for all types located throughout the book)

https://www.createspace.com/4429190

For my female followers.

Like Erotic Romance Novels? If so, I have a friend who just wrote an Ebook so I decided to advertise a little bit for her since she's just starting out. She doesn't know if this is her calling or not, so she's just testing the waters right now to see if anyone shows interest.

I managed to help her get it available for the Nook, Amazon Kindle, Google Play, and Kobo.

Anyway, it's actually a rather interesting book, although I have to warn you that it is for mature audiences only.

Amazon:

Island Roulette

Nook:

Island Roulette

For you #single ladies out there....

What Men Really Want: An Online Dating Guide for Women, is now available in the digital audio format on Audible.com!

http://www.audible.com/pd/Self-Develo...

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