Joseph Cavanaugh III's Blog

2 Cor 10:5

Fascinating concept isn’t it? The Apostle Paul states “and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.” NIV What would that be like to take captive your every thought and make it obedient to Christ? It would be amazing, it would be life transforming. I am reminded of the famous quote, “As a man thinketh in his heart, so shall he be” ― James Allen, As a Man Thinketh There is no question that our thought life determines much of whom we are, how we relate to one another and even how we relate to God.

In my coaching sessions with individuals, we often talk about thought life. They frequently share that they have very positive thoughts toward others including their spouses, children, friends and coworkers. The interesting part is they seldom express those positive thoughts verbally. The other persons are completely unaware of how the individual thinks of them because it has been so seldom expressed verbally. In reality many people withhold positive thoughts toward others but are not nearly so hesitant to express criticisms. This creates an unhealthy balance of positive affirmations to criticisms. Research has shown that in order for a human relationship to be perceived as a positive, there must be at least six positive statements to every criticism. A five to one ratio is neutral and anything lower is considered a negative relationship.

So I ask the question, “What if we were to capture every positive thought toward others and verbalize those thoughts?” The most common response I hear is, “I would but I just don’t know how to put those thoughts into words.” And that was a contributing motivation for writing, The Language of Blessing.

As you think about each of your significant relationships in your life, how is your ratio of affirmations to criticisms? Are you in the healthy range of six up to twelve affirmations to one criticism?

Just completed a wonderful interview on the Debbie Chavez program which reaches +50 countries! Debbie has a global ministry to women and it was truly a privilege to be on her program. I was scheduled for 30 minutes but we went the full 50 minutes! Thanks Debbie, that was so generous. You can listen to the interview at:

http://debbiechavezshow.com/2013/03/1...

The Language of Blessing officially launched March 1st. The book is now available in paperback, Kindle, Nook and eBook versions at major retailers. For which retailers currently available, visit the store page and just click on your favorite retailer.

Tonight, March 3rd, I gave my first radio interview on the program Sunday Night Live hosted by Kim Weir on KSBJ Houston. This is the largest Christian radio station in America! Kim was fun, very energetic and a very quick thinker who asked great questions. It was surprising how quickly 40 minutes went. I thoroughly enjoyed the experience and hope to have many more opportunities like this.

For all of those who are submitting reviews for The Language of Blessing, on Amazon, Good Reads and Christianbook.com thank you so much. I am honored, encouraged and blessed by your kind and encouraging words.

Welcome. This site is not only a blog about The Language of Blessing, it is also a source for additional resources to help you in your journey of discovery. A discovery of who God has uniquely created you and called you to be. Walking out your unique calling will be a source of great joy and deep satisfaction in your life and in the lives of others. There will also be informative discussions and even short videos to help answer the most commonly asked questions about receiving and giving the blessing to those you love and care about. So check out our site and feel free to ask any questions you would like. We look forward to corresponding with you soon.