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Beautiful People,
“I was happy to be a mom and a wife. I thought that these were wonderful accomplishments, but at the end of the day, I wanted to come home to them as opposed to wait for them to come home to me. I needed outside assurance of my competencies, which were unrelated to my competencies
as a mother or a wife. I needed this for balance“— The Opposite of Comfortable.
Celebrating Fridays until my May 17th book release with quotes from my book, and today’s quote is from Chapter 8, A Void.
At the end of November 2001, I was unemployed, lonely, and alone in our apartment in Manhattan, post-September 11th. I returned to the routine I had adopted during my first month in the city. I would go out on the streets and wander for hours by myself, taking the subway, and getting off along the way, without knowing where I was, or where I was going.
I spent hours in Central Park watching people walk past me. It was fall, usually my favorite season of the year, but when I sat on a bench and watched the trees shedding their leaves, I felt as if I was shedding my identity. It was the first time in my adult life I hadn’t worked for such a long period. I didn’t need to prove myself and be recognized for my success, but I had lost a substantial source of pride.
One of the greatest challenges for women in the 21st century is balancing between career and family. Guilt is only one of the outcomes of this challenge as I described in my March Women's eNews' article, Feminism Feels Good When We Stop Judging Ourselves. (Read:http://womensenews.org/2016/03/femini...
A person is much more than his/her trade. A career should never be one’s identity because once it’s lost one might risk losing his/her self.
In my early 30s, I realized neither the cost nor the consequences of confusing my career with my identity. But when I traded my career for my family, I experienced the painful results.
XO,
Sharon
“I was happy to be a mom and a wife. I thought that these were wonderful accomplishments, but at the end of the day, I wanted to come home to them as opposed to wait for them to come home to me. I needed outside assurance of my competencies, which were unrelated to my competencies
as a mother or a wife. I needed this for balance“— The Opposite of Comfortable.
Celebrating Fridays until my May 17th book release with quotes from my book, and today’s quote is from Chapter 8, A Void.
At the end of November 2001, I was unemployed, lonely, and alone in our apartment in Manhattan, post-September 11th. I returned to the routine I had adopted during my first month in the city. I would go out on the streets and wander for hours by myself, taking the subway, and getting off along the way, without knowing where I was, or where I was going.
I spent hours in Central Park watching people walk past me. It was fall, usually my favorite season of the year, but when I sat on a bench and watched the trees shedding their leaves, I felt as if I was shedding my identity. It was the first time in my adult life I hadn’t worked for such a long period. I didn’t need to prove myself and be recognized for my success, but I had lost a substantial source of pride.
One of the greatest challenges for women in the 21st century is balancing between career and family. Guilt is only one of the outcomes of this challenge as I described in my March Women's eNews' article, Feminism Feels Good When We Stop Judging Ourselves. (Read:http://womensenews.org/2016/03/femini...
A person is much more than his/her trade. A career should never be one’s identity because once it’s lost one might risk losing his/her self.
In my early 30s, I realized neither the cost nor the consequences of confusing my career with my identity. But when I traded my career for my family, I experienced the painful results.
XO,
Sharon
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