I was quite stressed after I had my daughter. I also believe I was dealing with a little postpartum depression, and I was super tense. I didn't talk to anyone about it, partly because I'm generally not the type of person to vent about my problems, but mainly because I felt guilty for feeling the way I did. For a few months, my husband and I barely spoke. It got so bad that he asked me if I still wanted to be with him. That was a huge wake up call. His question coupled with me not liking how I felt and how I was living led to me to doing something to change it.

I began venting in my journal and asking Spirit for help. I created affirmations around how I wanted my life to be different and read numerous blog posts on marriage. I began working on myself, changing my mindset to a positive one and being a more loving spouse. Additionally, I began doing yoga more regularly and meditating. The change didn't happen overnight (I'd say it took a few months), but because of those things: journaling, praying, affirmations, yoga, and meditation, I'm a much calmer, peaceful, and happier person.

Even though I teach women how to create calm, I struggle with it sometimes myself. I think that because I'm an introvert, I'm naturally an overthinker, which leads me to worrying. And I'm also a recovering control freak, so there are still times I kind of freak out when things don't work out how I think they should. Fortunately, I'm a lot better at not allowing circumstances to stress me out than I used to be.  But as the saying goes, 'We teach what we most need to learn.'


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I got away from doing features for awhile because I knew I wanted to change things up but I wasn't sure how. So I'm excited to welcome them back now in a new format. A Truth Moment is a series capturing our reflections, confessions and discoveries, no matter how big or small. If you submitted a piece for #writewordsthatmove that hasn't been posted yet, it will be posted in this new series. If you would like to share a moment, submission details are here and you can follow along with the series here.

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