This month, we’re spending a few weeks focused on partnership – our third pillar of family life. In this email, I share a tool that’s *critical* for partnerships AND really useful in all your relationships. 

One of my favorite teachers, John Gottman, has researched relationships for decades. He’s found that the partnerships that thrive – and are overall happier – have a 5 to 1 appreciations to criticisms ratio in their communications. That means for every one request, one suggestion, one criticism, there are five appreciations.

“I love you. I thank you. I am in awe of you! I adore you. I love having you as my partner!”

At this moment in time, where does your relationship land?

Are you giving 5 to 1?

10 to 1?

2 to 1?

For every one criticism, give five appreciations. 

5 to 1.

Learn it. Live it. Love it.

Notice what your current pattern is and then try to amp it up. In fact, let’s start the ball rolling…now! Leave a comment and answer these questions. (If you’re in the groove, send the answers to your partner as well.)

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With regards to my partner and our partnership, I’m appreciating…

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2.

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5.

My intention today as a partner is…

With regards to myself as a partner, lately I’ve learned…

Sending you so much love,

Carrie

P.S. I know that of the thousands of parents in my community that some are in committed partnerships and some are not.

My intention is to make this month work for everyone.

>> If you are married or in a committed relationship, by all means, use the tools!

>> If you are currently single OR in a tenuous or challenging situation, I invite you to use this work to get clear on the type of relationship you would like to create.

>> If you are not interested in creating a relationship with someone else, spend the time exploring the relationship you have with yourself. (Because, yes, your littles are still watching you navigate partnership!)