Dating in the 21st century

If you’ve been single for more than several years like me, you understand the difficulties of navigating through the dating world of today. Where do I start? Let’s see, men in relationships are constantly sending me direct messages on social media even with their relationship status displayed and pictures of their significant other plastered throughout their profile. These men are extremely bold or maybe being a side-chick is acceptable nowadays. When I call the men out for sending me a message when they’re clearly in a relationship, responses are mostly the same. I’m blocked or the man insists his actions are innocent. In my opinion a man in a relationship should not send a message to a woman under any circumstances because there is always an ulterior motive. Where has the loyalty gone? Is monogamy in relationships a thing of the past? Either way it leaves a sour taste in my mouth because I refuse to share a man. Social media has made it easier for people to cheat. I love social media but it’s a fact. If a person finds it impossible to remain faithful in a relationship, stay single. Forget the excuses, it’s just that simple. Don’t shoot the messenger, I’m just calling it how I see it.

Online dating is another thorn in my side though I must admit, there are some benefits. Unfortunately, most busy working adults don’t have time to hit the social scene to meet someone organically which is why they flock to the convenience of online dating. It’s an advantage for singles to be given the opportunity to meet someone they wouldn’t have otherwise met without the option of online dating. One glaring disadvantage is that it’s so much easier for a person to pretend to be something they’re not. I’ve encountered men who’ve lied about their height, age, relationship status, criminal background, smoking habits, career, etc. Some of my female friends on social media husbands even have profiles, but I just sip my tea. Another issue is possibly being catfished. Some of the stories I’ve heard are unbelievable. I really don’t understand how people are still being catfished with the different types of technology available. Most people have at least one social media account where recent pictures can be viewed. There’s also video chatting. I never meet anyone without video chatting first.

Okay, moving on. Ladies have you noticed that some men don’t want to properly court women anymore? They’re looking for the “Netflix & Chill” type of situation for easy access into your pants. I don’t know about you but I’m tired of the endless, “hey stranger, wyd, hey big head, I miss you, when am I going to see you?” texts instead of receiving “ good morning, thinking of you, let’s go out” texts. I just don’t understand new age men. I want flowers, the door opened for me, and I want the damn chair pulled out for me too. Dating is like having a part time job. It’s time consuming shifting through the bull crap. Most times a person introduces their representative first but eventually their true colors surface.

The current dating issues in society prompted me to pen my first novella Taboo Desires: Sexual Awakening. It’s about a woman name Raine who has given up on dating. She’s been single for six years and has been abstinent for eight months so she’s sexually frustrated. Her sisters coerce her into going to a sex club where she meets Dom and let’s just say he introduces her to sexual heights she never could’ve imagined.

Taboo Desires: Sexual Awakening is available for purchase on Amazon. An Amazon gift card giveaway will be announced soon.

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Published on September 20, 2019 12:30
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message 1: by Herbert (new)

Herbert Owens First & foremost, for it to be your first blog, it was a really good blog. Second, everything that you said was spot on. In today's society, there's no such thing is dating anymore. I totally agree about men cheat, but I'm totally surprised about how much women cheat as well. What gets me is, when these men or females meet each other, it's like there's no dinner or movie date, it's going straight to be bedroom now, rawdogging at that. What ever happened to a great conversation, great personality, loyalty, honesty, & my favorite courting. I love opening the car doors or doors to an establishment for women. I love to take her coat off & put it behind her chair for a woman. I love to pull her chair out for a woman, so she can sit down first before I sit. It seems like when I do these things, especially for these women in this generation, they look at me like I'm foreign or something. I've been single for almost 2 years & I refuse to date someone that don't have her stuff together or a ratchet female in general. Meanwhile, I went on a movie date today by myself & I enjoy myself as usual. I hope I meet a wonderful woman, but the way the dating scene is heading, I don't think it's going to happen.


message 2: by Lorrain (new)

Lorrain Allen Herbert wrote: "First & foremost, for it to be your first blog, it was a really good blog. Second, everything that you said was spot on. In today's society, there's no such thing is dating anymore. I totally agree..."

I definitely understand that dating is just as hard for men. Hopefully dating will change for the better.


message 3: by Herbert (new)

Herbert Owens I hope so. I hope dating doesn't get any worse than it is now. I'm scared of the next generation of dating.


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