Feelings: an easy word to pronounce and to write, but much more difficult to express, whether to ourselves or to others. Some days we are in the clear zone, we know exactly what we want, how we feel about certain things or people as life appears to go as smooth as silk. While joy may bring us a strong taste of adventure and freedom, we think we know a lot of things from around us and we’ve got everything figured out, but then we fall over those so called feelings of ours and we get lost in a wild place that only exists in our minds. Somehow, we get trapped in there voluntarily.

It’s those exact times when your vision is blocked by mixed signals. Suddenly, you find yourself out of place, hesitant and unsure of humanity, while you question everything in search for a sure answer. Is it fear and doubt? Or happiness and excitement? Perhaps it’s sadness and grief… Maybe it’s loneliness or simply you’re feeling down. Sometimes, it’s all of those emotions brewing inside your guts at the same moment. Not only that you stop understanding what your current state of mind is, but you are also unable to comprehend the feelings of other people, and that is the scary part.

Not understating something in life regardless of how big or small, really takes a hit on us as human beings. Because it is in our nature to investigate clues and discover new things, not knowing the solution to something rather important would most likely drive us crazy. It starts with doubting yourself and your choices then suspecting people’s intentions and actions. But unfortunately, it doesn’t end there. You then begin to play the what if game back and forth, making up your own conclusions and reasons.

Was it the promotion that you didn’t receive that started your career breakdown? Or the gone love of your life who didn’t appreciate the good in you and made you lose faith? Maybe it was the high expectation that you’ve set for your family that fell short this time. Or the close friend you’ve tragically lost and miss dearly but can no longer hear their voice. The reality of the matter is anything could have triggered those feelings to run out of control. Anything at all. What do we do then? We panic and build giant walls to separate us from everything and everyone as we drown in darkness and deep beneath the line of depression.

But before you get all tangled up in such dramatic situation and draw your own ending, take a deep breath and remind yourself that you are only human. Things don’t have to be prefect all the time. It’s okay not to have every detail of your life planned out in advance. Consider that sometimes not knowing the answer to something may be a blessing and not a curse. Maybe you’re thinking right now, oh my, she’s so optimistic, you may even roll your eyes at the screen, and that’s okay because you’re right, no matter how positive I want to be, some unfortunate events continue to happen every day in every corner of the world. Why? Because some things are out of our control, and we have got to accept that and let go. Sadly time does not stop for anything or anyone, so why should we?

Have you thought of the things that we can actually control? For example, if we learn how to clear or minds, and focus on the journey while having fun instead of stressing out. What if we learn to ask the right questions at the right time, and fully understand the given answers, we may then have some control over our complicated feelings. Let them breathe when necessary, share some laughs and even tears, but do not allow them to take charge of who you are today and who you plan to become tomorrow.