What is Financial Domination?Financial domination, also known as findom, has to be one of the most misunderstood fetishes inthe world. Ask most people and they’ll say that they can’t see what someone could possibly findarousing about handing over the contents of their wallet to a domme or dominant while gettingnothing in return.In actuality, people who enjoy financial domination get a great deal of enjoyment out of it… and it’srarely as simple as just handing over the contents of a wallet or purse! There are dozens of differentways to financially dominate or be dominated, all of which involve plenty of negotiation, planning,consent, and rules.There are two main reasons that a submissive partner might enjoy being financially dominated. Thefirst and most common one is that they’re turned on by the loss of power, and the invasion of theirpersonal space that accompanies someone powerful taking away what they have worked so hard toattain. They also, however, might enjoy looking after and providing for their domme or dominantusing their wealth.In this article we’ll look at a range of different ways in which people enjoy financial domination, andprovide you with a primer on some of the most common terms that are used within this fetish. Thenwe’ll explore how you can find a partner to engage in findom with, and what you should look out foralong the way…
Financial Domination Glossary
Blackmail
Playing with the idea of blackmail is a popular financial domination activity. A submissive partnermight hand over certain materials (such as diary entries, photographs, or compromising videos) totheir domme or dominant. The domme will then threaten to publish the information… unless aransom is paid. Blackmail can be a fun and intense way of playing with financial domination.Budget/AllowanceHaving a budget is something that allows someone to live their financial domination fantasy 24hours a day. Typically in this scenario the submissive will hand over their entire monthly earnings totheir domme in one lump sum at the start of the month, so that the domme can pay it back to themin smaller increments whenever they see fit, while keeping the excess.The end result is that the submissive has to ask permission for every little purchase and spend, andmay have to beg their domme on a regular basis for an increase in their allowance. For some, this isthe ultimate way of surrendering control.
ChastityChastity is actually a slightly different fetish from financial domination, but there’s some crossoverbetween the two, hence why it’s included here. Often financial submissives will surrender controlover their bodies to their domme or dominant, who will decide how often and under whatcircumstances they are allowed to masturbate or engage in other pleasurable activities.
A release from chastity might be dependent on the payment of a tribute. For example, a submissivemight have to pay several hundred dollars in cash to their domme or dominant before being allowedto orgasm. Chastity can be a powerful thing when combined with financial domination!
FinesMany findom relationships are built around the idea of the submissive partner paying a “fine” to thedominant one. This might be a result of their behavior; for example, they might be required to pay asmall amount every time they swear or drink. It might also be a regular arrangement, payable everytime they speak to their domme or dominant.Fines can be a fun way of introducing rules to a findom relationship, and allows the people involvedto mix elements of BDSM and D/s relationships in with their financial domination play.
Gift SlaveA gift slave is a submissive partner who purchases items off a wishlist for their dominant, oftenwithout receiving anything in return. They derive pleasure from being able to give their domme ordominant things which they desire.
GoddessWomen who provide financial domination services often prefer to be referred to as “Goddess”rather than by their name or any other term. This is to represent the position they take within thelives of their submissives, and to remind those who pay tribute to them how superior they are, andhow completely in control.
Human ATMA human ATM is a submissive partner in a findom relationship who enjoys providing their dominantwith cash. This is often done without the expectation that they will receive anything in return. Theymay send cash electronically, or turn up in person for an “ATM meet” or “cash meet”, where they’lleither hand over a certain amount of cash, or provide their domme or dominant with their ATM cardand PIN number.
PiggyThe submissive partner in a financial domination arrangement might be referred to as a “piggy”,“pig”, or “cash-pig”. This is a sadistic and humorous reference to the fact that – to the domme ordominant – they are effectively a piggy bank, there to be plundered for cash as and when the needarises.
RinsingRinsing is a term which refers to the practice of taking small amounts of money from a submissiveuntil they have almost nothing left. This might be done over a period of time, or during a single,intense session. While being rinsed can be expensive, many submissives enjoy the feeling ofcomplete powerlessness it provides.
TributeA tribute can be anything that is sent to a financial dominant. This might be cash, gift vouchers, oritems off a wishlist. While those giving tributes shouldn’t necessarily expect anything in return, thedominant may choose to provide a certain amount of attention of interaction as a way of thankingtheir submissive… if they are pleased with the tribute provided!
Financial Domination TipsThere’s no shortage of people online willing to take your cash, but sorting out the fakes andfraudsters from real dommes and dominants can be a difficult task. Many submissives who want toengage in financial domination find it a very difficult task to establish a long-lasting, happy, healthyfinancial domination relationship.Lucking there’s plenty you can do to find a domme or dominant who’ll treat you well… while stillrinsing you for every spare penny you have.Most financial domination arrangements are made online, which means that your prospectivedomme or dominant doesn’t have to be located close to you. With online payments, wishlists, andshopping vouchers it’s easy to transfer money or gifts even to someone who lives in anothercountry, while Skype and other messaging services make serving someone who lives abroad mucheasier and more fulfilling than it once was.If you don’t mind submitting to a domme or dominant who lives abroad, FetLife or a similar kinkysocial networking site should be your first port of call when searching for a financial dominant. You’llalso find plenty of them advertising their services on Twitter.When you first get involved with a financial domme or dominant, take things slowly. Ask questions ifyou need to, while also letting them know you’re serious and really do want to serve. Most dommesand dominants have to deal with a lot of timewasters, but they will always be willing to answerrespectful, genuine questions from a potential submissive who has a real interest in serving them.Look for dommes and dominants who are engaged in the community. Many fake financialdomination profiles will have no history whatsoever. They’ll have been thrown together as quickly aspossible, in the hope of making some easy money. Learn to avoid them, and instead see out financialdomination players who are active on FetLife or Twitter, and who you can see have a history ofengagement.
You can also ask around on forums and financial domination discussion groups (you’ll find several onFetLife) to get a lead on dommes and dominants who are the real deal, and can be trusted.The very best financial domination relationships are the ones that develop over time. Don’t expectto be able to dive in the deep end and get what you want straight away. Be willing to take it slowand get to know your dominant. If you ask for 24/7 control in the very first message you’re unlikelyto get a response. Remember that everyone you’re speaking to is human, and treat them as such.And finally, keep track of what you’re doing. Although you’re surrendering control, you shouldn’t riskruining your life! Make sure you trust your domme or dominant before engaging in risky play such asblackmail or rinsing. The very best financial dommes and dominants will work with you on yourbudget, and ensure that you can pay a suitable tribute to them without going completely broke.Remember that being financially dominated is supposed to be a fun and fulfilling experience whichallows you to surrender control in one of the most satisfying ways possible. If you’re not enjoying it,it may be time to stop.


My name is Shayla Aspasia. I have been a real-life Dominatrix, a teacher, mentor, a concert-level musician, and a world traveler. And now... I am a mentor, erotic author, clip creator, and Mistress over the phone. My specialties include financial domination, cuckolding, small penis humiliation, and feminization.  www.shaylaaspasia.com