Today, I am all over the place. Writing "Chasing Santa Barbara" has been an emotional rollercoaster.It really makes me start thinking about who in the world is in charge of making relationship rules. Who gets to decide or write the rule book on what works for you and your life? If it works for you and your significant other shouldn’t that be enough?

I feel like we often pause our own life and happiness just to please other people. Would they do the same for you? My guess is no. I think we should do what makes us happy. In "Chasing Oklahoma," I get a lot of negative feedback about Shawn. Shawn is madly in love with his wife....and another women. His wife accepts the relationship and the two of them move forward and build a beautiful sisterhood. They are happy together as a family so why does this make HIM the bad person?

"Chasing Oklahoma," is riddled with controversy and it is not for everybody. This is a story about forgiveness and unconditional love and a families determination to stay together. I hope that this blog reaches you before you read the book. I really encourage you to have an open mind about their relationship. Remember, this family has kept this secret for decades for fear that the rest of the world would criticize them. How sad is that?

Love Yourself and Each Other------M