Okay, you've been seeing each other regularly for a few weeks, and things are heating up, but the hormones are starting to calm down.

Now you're at the crossroads and paying attention to the traffic lights. Are you stopping, proceeding with caution, or going full speed ahead?

Here are some signs to help you decide if you've got a green light.

Using the characters from my novel Kate, Blue Jeans, and a Single Shot, let's explore. Kate represents the tendency to hand over control in a relationship, while Blue Jeans represents a nurturing companion.

The Right One Will Respect Your Individuality

Early in the relationship, it's natural to explore each other's interests. Trying new things your new companion likes is a positive sign, but it's crucial to maintain who you are. Your individuality is what makes you unique, and it's important to find a partner who respects that.

One thing women, in particular, do is refrain from participating in planning dates. Guys get frustrated by this and stop asking what you want to eat or what you want to do. So we go along and get lost.

Kate is a giver. Instead of expressing her wants, she prefers to go along with the program to keep the peace. Blue Jeans recognizes this and takes great care not to give up asking.

The right one will be happy with a give-and-take situation.

They Will Celebrate Your Wins

Praise never feels better than when it's coming from someone you care about. It says they see and appreciate you. Even small recognition for things like getting a promotion or simply having a good day carries great weight. Having someone notice is the icing on the cake.

Kate never played Jeopardy, but it's one of Blue Jean's favorite pastimes. He's happy about it when she beats him at his own game.

A healthy relationship is not a competition.

They Listen Without Getting Defensive

Open communication is the cornerstone of a healthy relationship. If something doesn't sit well with you, expressing your feelings is not just okay, it's essential. Remember, your emotions are valid, and a partner who truly cares will listen and understand, even if it's not what they want to hear.

After a strange evening where Kate accompanied Blue Jeans while he made his work rounds. She noticed he was hurried and distant. She suspected he was doing something illegal and wanted answers. So, she wanted to know the deal, and he came clean without getting defensive, making excuses, or lying.

It isn't easy in the early stages, but speaking up is important. Someone who cares wants to be truthful because, deep down, they can't keep up the act.

The Take Away

Start right, stay true to yourself, and always return the favor by making sure your new companion does the same.
Kate, Blue Jeans, and a Single Shot