I recently had the pleasure of joining therapist Cher Anderton on her podcast Make Discomfort Your B*tch—a show that explores the edges of our personal growth and what happens when we lean into discomfort rather than resist it. In this conversation, we dive into the complex relationship between control and surrender—a topic that’s deeply personal to me. I share how my lifelong need to control nearly every aspect of life—work, relationships, emotions—ultimately led to conflict, self-neglect, and a sense of disconnection from myself and others.

Through the lens of my book The Way of the Wave, we explore what it really means to let go and trust life’s unfolding.

The Control Paradox: We crave control to feel safe, yet it often creates more anxiety and insecurity.

Trusting Yourself Is the First Step: Letting go and surrendering begins with building inner trust and awareness.

Acceptance vs. Approval: Accepting reality doesn’t mean you condone it—it means you stop fighting what is and accept the present reality.

From control to surrender: What it means to release resistance and flow with life’s natural currents.

Growth Is Always Possible: Danny reflects on evolving as a parent and person—proving it’s never too late to shift how we show up for ourselves and others.

Whether you’re navigating a big life transition or simply feeling stuck in the grip of control, this episode offers a grounded, compassionate invitation to soften your grip—and trust the wave. Tune in below to listen:

May you go with the Wave.

—Danny

If this interview resonated with you, I invite you to explore my newest book, The Way of the Wave: Nature’s Model for Navigating Life’s Currents. The book audiobook (which I narrate myself) is now available on Audible and Spotify.

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