“Bissa,” said Maya, “In Ama’s time, trauma was dumped from one person to another. This particularly impacted women who were in this time, naturally more attuned to emotion than men.

At a familial level, trauma was passed on through judgment without the facts and through the relational triggers or trauma of the one judging. Much of the abuse arrived from one’s own overwhelm in carrying so much trauma and emotion that they could only lash out at others in place of being level-headed, as a result of the epidemic of emotional immaturity.

In that time, adults thought that they knew better than children. When the truth of the matter was that these adults didn’t know themselves and therefore would not allow the child to know themselves either. Nobody was allowed to question it deeply enough that change took place. No, it persisted until narcissistic “disordering” was rampant in nearly all people.

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