When you don’t choose, you cede your power.Photo by David Clode on Unsplash

There are a lot of voices in the world telling you who, what, where, how, and why you should have, do, and be. Everywhere you turn, someone is going to tell you to do this, that, or the other thing. Be like this or suffer. Do like that or face pain.

It’s intimidating, scary, and confusing. What’s the right choice? If I choose wrong, will I suffer, and how badly? For that reason, many people decide not to decide and choose not to choose.

Right or wrong, choices made are what matter most. Why? Because when you don’t make choices and decisions, you cede your power.

You have more power than you realize

It can feel like you’re powerless. Like, no matter what you do, the choices you make, who you are, none of it matters. It can feel like “they” are always judging you, so what’s the point?

The point is that you are the only one inside your head, heart, and soul. Hence, you, and only you, know what it is you desire. Only you can know what you’re thinking, what and how you’re feeling, your intentions, the positivity or negativity of your approach, and your actions.

It might not, on the surface, look like much. But the truth is that it’s everything. You alone perceive the world around you. No matter what anyone else says, how anyone else tells you things are, your perception belongs to you. Only you.

Hence, if something doesn’t feel right, makes you unhappy, distresses you, or anything else negative, you can find and/or create an alternative. It might not be obvious and immediately noticeable, but it can be found and/or created. You just need to pause, be here in the present, and look inwards to your subconscious beliefs, values, and habits to initiate change.

That’s what your power is. You can look at who, what, where, how, and why you are – right here and now – and then change what doesn’t suit you.

Maybe not instantly. It might take time, effort, and more. But you can find a way.

Unless, of course, you cede your power by not making choices.

The choices made will be both right and wrong

This is important: Every. Single. Person. Makes. Good. And. Bad. Choices. Every single solitary human being makes choices that are good and choices that are bad.

What’s more important than the good and bad of any given choice is that choices made matter. When you don’t choose, and you allow influencers, politicians, parents, teachers, friends, random people you meet on the street, and anyone else to direct you.

Yes, in the end, you choose to cede your power. That’s why it’s far, far better to make choices than not to make choices.

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Choices made are, in and of themselves, neutral. The outcome is where good and bad get attached. More than that, however, good and bad are not set in stone.

It might look like a bad choice, and the outcome might suck, but when you learn something incredibly valuable? When the bad choice leads to making a better choice? Was it necessarily so bad?

Unless it kills you, you will get to choose anew. You might get it wrong more than once – likely you will make multiple bad choices along the way – but what that teaches you might be far more valuable than what the good choice could have.

Lots of things that make the world better are the result of a failure. The vulcanized rubber for the tires our cars ride upon, Post-it notes, and bubble wrap failed what they intended to be, but were ultimately successful in the end.

Bad choices can result in good, too. So long as you make choices.

Not making choices leaves you powerless

When you don’t actively make choices via conscious awareness, you let life live you. You cede your greatest power.

Choosing and deciding from the almost infinite options human beings get is what sets us apart from the rest of the animal kingdom. Most of them only choose what gets them food, shelter, and propagation of the species. Humans are the only creatures who can live in any environment, can consume a huge range of foods, and can communicate instantly across the globe via incredible tools that were created by our hands and minds.

Choices made lead to every invention, every innovation, and progress. Personal or otherwise, choices and decisions are how you drive your life’s narrative. When you live by rote, routine, and habit, subconsciously on autopilot, you cede your power to be who, what, where, how, and why you desire to be.

This is not going to be easy, but that’s part of how you and I grow, evolve, and change. Since change is the one and only constant in the universe, and we can’t avoid it, why not make choices and decisions to drive how it works within our life experiences?

Choices made are the force that empowers you to do just that.

Recognizing that choices made matter more than right and wrong isn’t hard

It’s all about practicing active conscious awareness (mindfulness) of your thoughts, feelings, intentions, and the positivity or negativity of your approach to direct your actions.

When you recognize and acknowledge that choices and decisions that you make, via active conscious awareness, are how you have any control over who, what, where, how, and why you are, you gain a superpower. Knowing that you ultimately choose and decide how your life experience plays out, you can see that choices made are far better than ceding your power and not choosing or deciding for you, your life experience, and yourself.

This empowers you, and your empowerment can empower others around you.

Consciously choosing your approach to life towards positivity or negativity — from the vast cylinder that exists between them — shifts life in a way that opens greater dialogue. From that dialogue, you can recognize, explore, and share where you are between the extremes and how that impacts you here and now.

Choosing thoughts, feelings, actions, and intentions for yourself opens the way for a positive approach and attitude via your actions. This can lead to realizing amazing potential and possibilities for your life.

The better aware you are of yourself, here and now, the better you can choose and decide what, how, and why your life experiences will be. When you empower yourself, it can spread to those around you and empower them as well. That is an amazing conduit to help reason to overcome fear in the collective consciousness.

Thank you for coming along on this journey.

This is the six-hundred-tenth (610) entry of my Positivity series. I hope that these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone. Feel free to share, reblog, and spread the positivity.

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