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“When someone is really defensive, it’s such a drag to give them feedback. Defensiveness creates an environment where truth cannot live.” – Terri Cole

Intro

Be honest. Have you ever felt your walls go up when someone gives you feedback? Maybe your partner says, “You’re always on your phone,” or your boss points out a mistake, and before you even realize it, you’re explaining, justifying, or firing back.

You are not alone. Defensiveness is a profoundly human response. It is our nervous system’s way of saying, “I feel threatened.” But while it may feel like protection, defensiveness actually builds a wall between you and the people you care about most.

Let’s talk about why it happens, how to shift it, and how to give feedback in a way that strengthens the connection rather than breaking it down.

Highlights:4:10 What it means when your nervous system responds poorly to feedback 6:10 What’s your downloaded blueprint around defensiveness?7:50 Practical advice about what to say and what not to say when you receive feedback12:30 The consequences of a defensive response to feedback16:40 The art of giving feedback without being criticalLinks Mentioned:

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