Every woman is capable of being subtly sexy. Possessing subtle sex appeal will draw a man to you, arousing his inner passion so that he is intrigued to know and have you. It begins with discovering and defining what is sexy about you. If you feel there is nothing sexy about you, then you will discover it is merely a matter of uncovering your sensuality from within you. It should feel natural and be an extension of your being.

To be sexy does not mean you expose your body so you appear naked. Nor should you throw yourself in front of a man to let him know that you are available. Being sexy is about tempting a man with the subtly of your presence, touch, voice and movement. It is your beautiful spirit and energy. It is how you glance at a man, flirting gently with your eyes. It is your genuine smile, the sparkle in your eyes, your gentle laugh and quick wit. It is how you are confident, yet humble and engaging of others’ conversation. It is the way you move gracefully across a room and delicately pick up a glass. It is your touch and smooth legs peeking beneath your skirt. To be subtly sexy is to understand how to be empowered by your best qualities and femininity.

Being subtly sexy isn’t merely a woman’s physical attributes, it’s about every aspect of her being

“To be the woman a man longs for, a woman who only comes around once in a lifetime, it takes a lot more than looks alone.”  A man’s viewpoint on what is subtly sexy

A woman will define what is sexy about her

“I find many things about women sexy, but a woman will define what is sexy about her.  If she feels pretty, then that is sexy. If she is confident, then her confidence is sexy. If she is smart, then her intelligence is sexy. All of these things can turn a man on.”   A man’s viewpoint on what is subtly sexy

A woman’s movements will define how subtly sexy she is

“A woman’s movements will define how she is subtly sexy. The way she touches her hair, the way her lips move, the ways her soft sweet eyes stare back at a man.”  A man’s viewpoint on what is subtly sexy

A woman’s appearance will define how subtly sexy she is

“Sexy is a woman’s smooth, soft skin, her hair cascading off her shoulders, her pink sensual lips, how her clothes define her curves – it’s what she does to make herself look sexy.” A man’s viewpoint on what is subtly sexy

A woman who wears sexy lingerie under her clothes is subtly sexy

“A man can tell when a woman wears nice lingerie. She has this confidence and sexiness about her. It’s like she knows she’s beautiful underneath her clothes. A man can’t resist a woman like this.”  A man’s viewpoint on what is subtly sexy

A woman’s skin is subtly sexy

“There’s nothing as sexy as a woman with skin so soft you could taste her smooth neck and feel the gentleness of her hands on your body without ever touching her.”  A man’s viewpoint on what is subtly sexy

A woman with nice lips is subtly sexy

“When a man sees a woman with nice lips, he imagines how they would taste and how she would kiss.”  A man’s viewpoint on what is subtly sexy

A woman whose neck smells nice is subtly sexy

“If I lean close to a woman with her hair pulled back, revealing her sensual neck and the scent of her delicate perfume floating, I can’t resist. It arouses every part of my body.”  A man’s viewpoint on what is subtly sexy

A woman who has feminine traits is subtly sexy

“Everything feminine about a woman is sexy – her curves, her hair, her breasts. That’s why men are bewitched by women.”  A man’s viewpoint on what is subtly sexy

Subtly sexy is the right expression from a woman’s eyes

“I love a woman’s eyes. They are the window into her soul.  I could stare at a woman’s eyes forever.”  A man’s viewpoint on what is subtly sexy

A woman who feels sexy is subtly sexy even if she is not naturally the most physically beautiful woman

“I think women don’t always understand how they can make themselves more attractive. A woman may not be that naturally pretty, but if she feels sexy, it shows and she is sexy.”  A man’s viewpoint on what is subtly sexy

A woman is subtly sexy if she is confident

“It’s so sexy when a woman is confident…but not conceited about it. She’s self-assured and knows what she does well.”  A man’s viewpoint on what is subtly sexy

A woman who has some mystery to her is subtly sexy

“I like a woman who has some sort of mystery to her. It’s a huge turn on when I’m left to wonder.”  A man’s viewpoint on what is subtly sexy

What makes you uniquely subtly sexy are all of your strengths that define you. Your touch is unique from any other woman. As is your scent, the way you walk across a room, and how you turn to a man and smile. How you reveal your legs, which are uniquely yours, yet subtly sexy to a man, enticing him to be closer to you, wondering how they would feel if he touched them. He hears the gentleness and warmth of your voice as he draws closer, causing him to wonder what else you have to say and pulling him into you. These attributes belong solely to you and will define how you are naturally subtly sexy.

Yours in spirit,

Hanako

Author of The Geisha Secret, Ritual 3: Demonstrate Subtle Sex Appeal