October 11th is National Coming Out Day, which I actually don’t agree with. I agree with the celebration of freedom by our LGBT family, but coming out is a very personal decision that should be made with care and planning, not at the whim of a date on the calendar. There’s no race, no time limit.

It’s something you can’t really take back – once it’s out there, the elephant is in the room. If you’re ready to take that step and open the closet door, I’m right with you – congratulations. But firs...