On my previous post GIRL-FRIEND OR GIRL-FRIENDS: WHICH ONE WOULD YOU PREFER? I received both bouquets (I am not bragging, Okay!!) and brickbats (I am lying, okay!!). Also, I received one mail in which my reader-friend asked me this question.

What if a girl tells her boy that she is insecure about him as he talks to and being friend with other girls? He stopped doing so and said her that he didn’t intend anything which would hurt her. He promised her that he won’t do it again. He meant it and he never repeated same.

But later on he finds out that his girl was doing same, she, who stopped him from being friends with people of opposite sex, was doing the same. On the parallel timeline or might be slightly earlier than him and continues to do so even after warned by her boy. Now what should he, the boy, do then?

Is there a different scenario for girls about what u may write again…. or it’s just like same and I just need to change characters in your article from ‘he’ to ‘she’.

The article which you wrote is justified… but in this case, that I told you above. What you would like to say. Waiting for your answer…!!

There is no more wait!! I am here with the answer of your question.

Dear friend, you really made me work hard. Before writing this post, I read my previous few times. Anyways, you have asked very generous question which I would love to answer here. Actually these are problems in every relationship, yours, mine and everyone else out here. Therefore I wrote the previous blog post and writing this one.

See, my previous post wasn’t only for one character, either a girl or a boy. I should have write there that it was for both sexes. You can read your part by changing ‘he’ to ‘she’ or vice versa.

As I already said that everything in life is two way. If she stopped her boy from talking and being friend with people-of-opposite-sexes, as she felt ‘insecure’. Then I want to ask her does he made up of something-else-than-emotions that when you are doing same, he won’t feel ‘insecurity’. She must understand that love is always two sided. Like you can’t clap with one hand, you can’t make relationship sustain for long time putting efforts from only one side. If he is putting his 100%, then she must put her 100% too.

And as I said in previous post, if one tries to hide things from his loved one, then there is no way that relationship is going in right direction. If you ask me, I would say that ‘fall-of-your-relationship’ starts from the same day you started hiding things.

Actually you know my friend, what is the major reason behind this.

As couple has decided that they won’t talk to those people whom other person doesn’t want you to. But still she is doing so and hiding from him. I am coming on this. Let me say this, actually you know if she stopped him for doing all that as she felt insecure but she was and is doing same. Then she must be thinking that boy can fall for any one of them but I have super control on myself. As I am modern girl (Thinking that he is not) I can manage both boys as friends and boyfriend, him because I am just normal friends with other people (thinking that like he was sleeping with his girls-as-his-friends). But dear girl, you need to accept that if you can control yourself, then he can also do so.

Also, if you feel like he can commit mistake and you won’t. Then, trust me, there must be a lot of them you already had and there is lot of them, you are going to commit.

And believe me or not, trust me or not, whether say me a narrow minded or say me wrong, a boy and girl can’t remain as just-friends for long. Always, yes always, one started developing feelings for other and other don’t recognize generally and one ends up hurt oneself. As I used to observe relationships around me, most of the relationships, in which, either boy or girl has other friends for whom he or she can ignore or avoid their loved one, failed, yes they failed, because either they or their any friend fall in love with them and as they spent lot of time together, you know well, people started avoiding the long-distance-companion.

Do you ever try to think that why people say that long distance relationships don’t work much??

This is the reason, insecurity and one starts hiding things. So you must be careful for future, if you want him for long.

And as you asked me, what should boy do. He should discuss with her that this is not going to work this way. Either you should stop doing so or I will start doing so. And she must be aware that if too starts doing same, and then she shouldn’t feel insecurity.

Thanks

And yeah Don’t Forget to grab the copy of my book ‘I LOVE THE WAY YOU LOVE ME–A THAPARIAN’S LOVE STORY’ HERE:

http://tinyurl.com/o5fmtky (hmshop18)

http://tinyurl.com/peooar8 (InfiBeam)

http://tinyurl.com/kcsppz4 (FlipKart)

http://tinyurl.com/pederkr (Amazon)

http://tinyurl.com/k8dttct(book adda)

http://bit.ly/1hSes2T (junglee.com)