Love to some, means possession.

Yet as we evolve, we learn that the highest form of love is letting go. We often love with closed fists, so afraid of being left, hurt, rejected or abandoned. Yet when love is rooted in the “fear of loss” we don’t experience the transformational power of love. In order for love to flow through us, we must allow it to work on us. When love works on us, it transforms our fears. It heals self-sabotage. It calms the panic that stems from feeling a loss of control. Love does not chain down, it releases. It allows its giver and receiver room to breathe, to flourish, and soar.

Letting Go Through Tears…

“Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.”

― Ann Landers

Who said letting go was easy? Letting go can feel like death, and yet, it it’s pre-requisite for new life. There is sacred beauty in release, there is authentic power found in letting go. As a matter of fact, until we let go, the very thing we think we posses is really possessing us. It becomes a yoke around our necks, a weighty and unnecessary burden for our souls.

We rediscover our power when we are able to set people free from our expectations, old tapes, fears, and allow them to choose their own path. We rediscover our personal power and strength by embracing the courage required to let go.

Prayers of control vs. prayers of release

“Unanswered prayers are often due to unresolved and hostile feelings you are harboring or possessiveness towards and another person. It’s emotional energy that is channeled inappropriately and way from your own life. In order to release them, you say a cleansing prayer.”

– Catherine Ponder (Author, The Dynamic Laws of Prayer)

We neglect the truth that many of the relationship problems that trouble our hearts are because we pray prayers of control, rather than prayers of release. We pray for people to conform to our will and our way rather than trusting God’s flow, path and plan for their lives.

The need to control another person stems from fear. The power to let go is a reflection of higher love. The constant mental fixation on another human being is always a invitation to look within.

If you are struggling with release, stop now and repeat after me: “God, I release______________(name) I trust your plan, purpose and path for their life. I ask that you heal and uproot the fears within me that keep me holding on. I set them free. I receive my freedom now. Amen.”  

If you love someone, set them free…

“Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t.”

― Steve Maraboli

Controlling, manipulative tactics of holding on are sure signs that we have neglected self-love and self-care. This neglect it creates a huge hole in our hearts, one that we then in turn demand be filled by another.

Love requires selflessness. We are called to put the needs of the one we love above our own. We choose to release them in order to set ourselves free and allow them the freedom to come back, choose connection with us from a place of power rather than feeling cornered and forced.

By letting go, we also reclaim our power to focus on the core needs we have neglected within ourselves. Trust the process of your own rebirth; it typically follows the profound spiritual practice of dispossession…letting go.

It takes emotional maturity to let go

“Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care about someone anymore. It’s just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself.”

― Deborah Reber

God’s love is the greatest and most transformational power we will ever touch and yet it does not force, bind or control. God allows us the full right to choose. And when we do choose God’s love, we witness that pure love liberates the captive heart. It sets free the fear-based mind. It unshackles the soul bound in shame.

Let people off the short hook of your expectations. Let people free from the vain-fearful-imaginings in your head. Find the courage to walk away from relationships that have become damaging to your soul. Let go of people who do not see your worth. Let go of people who are out of alignment with your calling, purpose and core truth.

It takes courage to let go. It takes wholeness and self-love to embrace the liberating power of letting go.

When we find the strength to surrender, we receive the matchless peace and happiness that our souls long for.

Let go and reawaken your heart…the possibilities are endless.

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