“When demanded of those without power--
'if you said it more nicely maybe we would listen'--
'I can't hear you when you're so angry'--
'the ones who are nice are the ones who will get what they want'
(or, worse, the ones who are nice and pretty,
which, of course, also includes white, Christian, and 'classy')--
it is yet another subjugation,
yet another tool of oppression.”