Is It Nice Quotes

“When demanded of those without power--
'if you said it more nicely maybe we would listen'--
'I can't hear you when you're so angry'--
'the ones who are nice are the ones who will get what they want'
(or, worse, the ones who are nice and pretty,
which, of course, also includes white, Christian, and 'classy')--
it is yet another subjugation,
yet another tool of oppression.”
― Shellen Lubin

“Be nice,' we're often told,
particularly we women--
along with other populations under-appreciated
and over-oppressed...
Until recently, that has mostly been said to those without power...
Because those in power didn't have to be nice,
were never expected to be nice.

Recently it's being said more often to those with great power,
and there is value in that.”
― Shellen Lubin

“...important truths, perspectives, and awarenesses
may feel harsh
no matter how 'nicely' they are stated,
and so,
we can't always be nice”
― Shellen Lubin

“So don't ask people to be nicer
unless they're abusive,
unless they're the abusers.
And if they are,
maybe the nicest thing you can do in 2022
is kindly, gently, read them the so-called riot act.
And warn them a riot may be coming their way.”
― Shellen Lubin