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“If you service low-impact activities, therefore, you're taking away time you could be spending on higher-impact activities. It's a zero-sum game.”
― Cal Newport, Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World

“[Great creative minds] think like artists but work like accountants.”
― Cal Newport, Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World

“To remain valuable in our economy, therefore, you must master the art of quickly learning complicated things. This task requires deep work. If you don’t cultivate this ability, you’re likely to fall behind as technology advances. The”
― Cal Newport, Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World

“To remain valuable in our economy, therefore, you must master the art of quickly learning complicated things.”
― Cal Newport, Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World

“Some say they don’t really know what they are looking for in life. This might be because, instead of getting in touch with how they feel, they have led their lives according to other people’s expectations. Live your life not to satisfy others, but to fulfill what your heart desires.”
― Haemin Sunim, The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down: How to be Calm in a Busy World

“Do not fight your negative emotions. Observe and befriend them.”
― Haemin Sunim, The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down: How to be Calm in a Busy World

“Pain and purpose are two sides of the same thing. A person struggling with depression is very likely a person yearning to feel fully. A socially anxious person is very likely a person yearning to connect with others. You hurt where you care, and you care where you hurt.”
― Steven C. Hayes, A Liberated Mind: How to Pivot Toward What Matters

“We began crafting ways to apply defusion and self skills to coping with the fear and pain of acceptance. Learning to defuse from the voice of the Dictator helps us keep a healthy distance from the negative messages that pop uninvited into our minds, like “Who are you kidding, you can’t deal with this!” It also helps diminish the power of the unhelpful relations that have been embedded in our thought networks, which are often activated by the pain involved in acceptance. For example, the relation between smoking a cigarette and feeling better will be triggered by the discomfort of craving a smoke. Reconnecting with our authentic self helps us practice self-compassion as we open up to unpleasant aspects of our lives, not berating ourselves for making mistakes or for feeling fear about dealing with the pain. We see beyond the image of a broken, weak, or afflicted self to the powerful true self that can choose to feel pain.”
― Steven C. Hayes, A Liberated Mind: How to Pivot Toward What Matters

“You are what you do, not what you say you'll do.”
― Carl Gustav Jung

“The outer world is a reflection of the inner world. Other people’s perception of you is a reflection of them; your response to them is an awareness of you.”
― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart

“The past is a place of reference, not a place of residence; the past is a place of learning, not a place of living.”
― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart

“Do what is right, not what is easy nor what is popular.”
― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart

“No amount of regretting can change the past, and no amount of worrying can change the future.”
― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart

“Follow your heart, listen to your inner voice, stop caring about what others think.”
― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart

“Growing up gay is still a very isolating and annihilating experience for too many young people. While you are a gay little boy, our society—in its classrooms, its playgrounds, its religious institutions—has no place for you and doesn’t want you to exist. You are erased. A gay little boy doesn’t know who he can turn to, doesn’t know who to trust. He hears people whispering, he watches TV, and he realizes how unsafe the world can be if you don’t fit in.”
― Joe Kort, 10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Improve Their Lives

“The past has no power over the present moment.”
― Eckhart Tolle

“The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation but your thoughts about it.”
― Eckhart Tolle, A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's Purpose

“When you’re very anxious, you end up trapped in your head all the time— the prison without walls. Your”
― Barry McDonagh, Dare: The New Way to End Anxiety and Stop Panic Attacks Fast

“You are not your anxiety. As abnormal as it makes you feel, this anxiety is not the real you. It is not who you are or who you have become.”
― Barry McDonagh, Dare: The New Way to End Anxiety and Stop Panic Attacks Fast

“You are not a weak or cowardly person for having an anxiety problem.”
― Barry McDonagh, Dare: The New Way to End Anxiety and Stop Panic Attacks Fast

“mindful approach to any activity has three characteristics: the continuous creation of new categories; openness to new information; and an implicit awareness of more than one perspective”
― Ellen J. Langer, The Power of Mindful Learning

“An awareness of alternatives at the early stages of learning a skill gives a conditional quality to the learning, which, again, increases mindfulness.”
― Ellen J. Langer, The Power of Mindful Learning

“From a mindful perspective, however, uncertainty creates the freedom to discover meaning. If there are meaningful choices, there is uncertainty. If there is no choice, there is no uncertainty and no opportunity for control. The theory of mindfulness insists that uncertainty and the experience of personal control are inseparable.”
― Ellen J. Langer, The Power of Mindful Learning

“A reliable way to make people believe in falsehoods is frequent repetition, because familiarity is not easily distinguished from truth. Authoritarian institutions and marketers have always known this fact.”
― Daniel Kahneman, Thinking, Fast and Slow

“The easiest way to increase happiness is to control your use of time. Can you find more time to do the things you enjoy doing?”
― Daniel Kahneman, Thinking, Fast and Slow

“The worse the consequence, the greater the hindsight bias.”
― Daniel Kahneman, Thinking, Fast and Slow

“Learning that we are more than the voices that haunt us can provide hope and serve as a mean of changing our life. As the language of self-awareness is expanded and reinforced we learn that we are capable of choosing whether or not to follow the expectations of others and the mandates of our childhoods and cultures. Thus much of our suffering can be traced back to our stream of thoughts: the voices in our heads and the stories we tell about ourselves.”
― Louis Cozolino, Why Therapy Works: Using Our Minds to Change Our Brains

“What would Buddha do? “Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment”, Buddha. Well, while Buddhism contains many valuable life lessons one of the most important is the difference between pain and suffering. Pain is woven into nature and is inevitable part of life: to desire results in disappointment, to love means you will experience loss and to be born naturally leads to aging and death. By contrast suffering is what our minds make up these experiences when they are not at hand. Suffering is the anguish we experience from worry of not getting the things we need or from loosing the things that we have. It is an anticipatory anxiety.”
― Louis Cozolino, Why Therapy Works: Using Our Minds to Change Our Brains

“Successful therapists learn to be ‘amygdala whisperers’ by leveraging the social brain in order to help clients face their fears.”
― Louis Cozolino, Why Therapy Works: Using Our Minds to Change Our Brains

“Those that go searching for love only make manifest their own lovelessness, and the loveless never find love, only the loving find love, and they never have to seek for it. D. H. Lawrence1”
― Robert Holden, Loveability: Knowing How to Love and Be Loved