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  • #1
    Amir Levine
    “The trick is not to get hooked on the highs and lows and mistake an activated attachment system for passion or love. Don't let emotional unavailability turn you on.”
    Amir Levine, Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love

  • #2
    Amir Levine
    “Attachment principles teach us that most people are only as needy as their unmet needs. When their emotional needs are met, and the earlier the better, they usually turn their attention outward. This is sometimes referred to in attachment literature as the “dependency paradox”: The more effectively dependent people are on one another, the more independent and daring they become.”
    Amir Levine, Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love

  • #3
    Amir Levine
    “When our partner is unable to meet our basic attachment needs, we experience a chronic sense of disquiet and tension that leaves us more exposed to various ailments. Not only is our emotional well-being sacrificed when we are in a romantic partnership with someone who doesn’t provide a secure base, but so is our physical health.”
    Amir Levine, Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love

  • #4
    Amir Levine
    “As adults we don’t play with toys anymore, but we do have to go out into the world and deal with novel situations and difficult challenges. We want to be highly functional at work, at ease and inspired in our hobbies, and compassionate enough to care for our children and partners. If we feel secure, like the infant in the strange situation test when her mother is present, the world is at our feet. We can take risks, be creative, and pursue our dreams. And if we lack that sense of security? If we are unsure whether the person closest to us, our romantic partner, truly believes in us and supports us and will be there for us in times of need, we’ll find it much harder to maintain focus and engage in life. As in the strange situation test, when our partners are thoroughly dependable and make us feel safe, and especially if they know how to reassure us during the hard times, we can turn our attention to all the other aspects of life that make our existence meaningful.”
    Amir Levine, Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love

  • #5
    Amir Levine
    “[Avoidants] might have sex only rarely -- or never -- with their partner, or fantasize about others while doing so. ... With avoidants, fantasy is not part of a mutual adventure but rather a deactivating strategy to keep them isolated.”
    Amir Levine, Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love

  • #6
    Amir Levine
    “Having a partner who fulfills our intrinsic attachment needs and feels comfortable acting as a secure base and safe haven can help us remain emotionally and physically healthier and live longer.”
    Amir Levine, Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love

  • #7
    Amir Levine
    “Susan, who has an avoidant attachment style, ... sees need as a weakness and looks down on people who become dependent on their partner,”
    Amir Levine, Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love

  • #8
    Amir Levine
    “A secure base is a prerequisite for a child’s ability to explore, develop, and learn.”
    Amir Levine, Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love

  • #9
    Amir Levine
    “Attachment research shows that people tend to become more secure when they are in a relationship with someone secure.”
    Amir Levine, Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love

  • #10
    Amir Levine
    “Also, people with different attachment styles tend to explain why they are still alone in a different manner: People who are anxious often feel that there is something wrong with them; secures will have a more realistic view of things, and avoidants often sound like Paul—they attribute their single status to external circumstances, such as not having met the right girl.”
    Amir Levine, Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love

  • #11
    Amir Levine
    “Devaluing your partner when things become too close is very typical of people with an avoidant attachment style and is used as a way to create emotional distance.”
    Amir Levine, Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love

  • #12
    Amir Levine
    “With avoidants, everyday interactions and conversations, whether they’re about which channel to watch on TV or how to raise the kids, are actually negotiations for space and independence. You often wind up complying with their wishes—because otherwise they will withdraw. Research shows that avoidants hardly ever date one another. They simply lack the glue that keeps things together.”
    Amir Levine, Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love

  • #13
    David Richo
    “At every stage of life, our inner self requires the nurturance of loving people attuned to our feelings and responsive to our needs who can foster our inner resources of personal power, lovability, and serenity. Those who love us understand us and are available to us with an attention, appreciation, acceptance, and affection we can feel. They make room for us to be who we are.”
    David Richo, How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving

  • #14
    David Richo
    “Once we love ourselves, people no longer look good to us unless they are good for us.”
    David Richo, How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving

  • #15
    David Richo
    “Mindfulness is an ancient meditation mode in which we let go of our fears, our attachments to control and being right, our expectations and entitlements, and our judgments of others.”
    David Richo, How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving

  • #16
    Hermann Hesse
    “There is no reality except the one contained within us. That is why so many people live such an unreal life. They take the images outside of them for reality and never allow the world within to assert itself.”
    Hermann Hesse, Steppenwolf

  • #17
    David Hume
    “Indulge your passion for science…but let your science be human, and such as may have a direct reference to action and society. Be a philosopher; but amidst all your philosophy, be still a man.”
    David Hume, An Enquiry Concerning Human Understanding

  • #18
    Friedrich Nietzsche
    “Madness is something rare in individuals — but in groups, parties, peoples, and ages, it is the rule.”
    Friedrich Nietzsche, Beyond Good and Evil

  • #19
    Friedrich Nietzsche
    “The strength of a person's spirit would then be measured by how much 'truth' he could tolerate, or more precisely, to what extent he needs to have it diluted, disguised, sweetened, muted, falsified.”
    Friedrich Nietzsche, Beyond Good and Evil

  • #20
    Friedrich Nietzsche
    “Every profound spirit needs a mask”
    Friedrich Nietzsche, Beyond Good and Evil

  • #21
    Friedrich Nietzsche
    “One is punished most for one’s virtues.”
    Friedrich Nietzsche, Beyond Good and Evil

  • #22
    Simone de Beauvoir
    “...her wings are cut and then she is blamed for not knowing how to fly.”
    Simone de Beauvoir, The Second Sex

  • #23
    Simone de Beauvoir
    “No one is more arrogant toward women, more aggressive or scornful, than the man who is anxious about his virility.”
    Simone de Beauvoir , The Second Sex

  • #24
    Simone de Beauvoir
    “Representation of the world, like the world itself, is the work of men; they describe it from their own point of view, which they confuse with absolute truth.”
    Simone de Beauvoir, The Second Sex

  • #25
    Simone de Beauvoir
    “Few tasks are more like the torture of Sisyphus than housework, with its endless repetition: the clean becomes soiled, the soiled is made clean, over and over, day after day.”
    Simone de Beauvoir, The Second Sex

  • #26
    Simone de Beauvoir
    “If so few female geniuses are found in history, it is because society denies them any means of expression.”
    Simone de Beauvoir, The Second Sex

  • #27
    Plato
    “The heaviest penalty for declining to rule is to be ruled by someone inferior to yourself.”
    Plato, The Republic

  • #28
    Plato
    “If women are expected to do the same work as men, we must teach them the same things.”
    Plato, The Republic

  • #29
    Plato
    “The beginning is the most important part of the work.”
    Plato, The Republic

  • #30
    Plato
    “That's what education should be," I said, "the art of orientation. Educators should devise the simplest and most effective methods of turning minds around. It shouldn't be the art of implanting sight in the organ, but should proceed on the understanding that the organ already has the capacity, but is improperly aligned and isn't facing the right way.”
    Plato, The Republic



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