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#1

“Everything that happens to you is a reflection of what you believe about yourself. We cannot outperform our level of self-esteem. We cannot draw to ourselves more than we think we are worth.”
― Iyanla Vanzant

tags: self-esteem

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#2

“You can accept or reject the way you are treated by other people, but until you heal the wounds of your past, you will continue to bleed. You can bandage the bleeding with food, with alcohol, with drugs, with work, with cigarettes, with sex, but eventually, it will all ooze through and stain your life. You must find the strength to open the wounds, stick your hands inside, pull out the core of the pain that is holding you in your past, the memories, and make peace with them”
― Iyanla Vanzant, Yesterday, I Cried

tags: oprah, the-past, wounds

656 likes

#3

“When you need to be loved, you take love wherever you can find it. When you are desperate to be loved, feel love, know love, you seek out what you think love should look like. When you find love, or what you think love is, you will lie, kill, and steal to keep it. But learning about real love comes from within. It cannot be given. It cannot be taken away. It grows from your ability to re-create within yourself, the essence of loving experiences you have had in your life.”
― Iyanla Vanzant

tags: love

316 likes

#4

“You have set standards for how you want to be treated and what you expect from yourself and for yourself.”
― Iyanla Vanzant, In the Meantime: Finding Yourself and the Love You Want

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#5

“One way to eliminate self negating thoughts and behavior is by gaining more understanding through realizing that you cannot force others to see that what you feel is real.”
― Iyanla Vanzant

tags: inspirational

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#6

“When you stand and share your story in an empowering way, your story will heal you and your story will heal somebody else.”
― Iyanla Vanzant

tags: inspirational-quotes, iyanla-vanzant, spinach-soup-for-the-walls

135 likes

#7

“Before you find out who you are, you have to figure out who you aren't..”
― Iyanla Vanzant

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#8

“Education does not take place when you learn something you did not know before. Education is your ability to use what you have learned to be better today than you were yesterday.”
― Iyanla Vanzant

tags: education, growth, improvement

67 likes

#9

“Their issues are not your issues.”
― Iyanla Vanzant, The Value in the Valley: A Black Woman's Guide Through Life's Dilemmas

tags: my-life-lesson-to-be-learned

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#10

“Sooner or later, we must all accept the fact that in a relationship, the only person you are dealing with is yourself. Your partner does nothing more than reveal your stuff to you. Your fear! Your anger! Your pattern! Your craziness! As long as you insist on pointing the finger out there, at them, you will continue to miss out on the divine opportunity to clear your stuff. Here is a meantime tip—we love in others what we love in ourselves. We despise in others what we cannot see in ourselves.”
― Iyanla Vanzant, In the Meantime: Finding Yourself and the Love You Want

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#11

“Until you heal the wounds of your past, you are going to bleed. You can bandage the bleeding with food, with alcohol, with drugs, with work, with cigarettes, with sex; But eventually, it will all ooze through and stain your life. You must find the strength to open the wounds, Stick your hands inside, pull out the core of the pain that is holding you in your past, the memories and make peace with them.”
― Iyanla Vanzant

47 likes

#12

“Life would be so much easier if, when we hit a snag in a relationship, any relationship, we would stop, address it, and move ahead smoothly. The truth is, in most cases, we could do just that. The reality is, we don’t do it! We keep moving. We allow little insults to become raging angers, little arguments to become festering feuds, little pains to become deep wounds, and we keep moving. In many cases, we keep hurting. When the relationship at issue is an intimate, loving one, the attempt to move forward without addressing the pain only complicates matters, further poisoning the relationship.”
― Iyanla Vanzant, In the Meantime: Finding Yourself and the Love You Want

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#13

“You don't get to tell people how to love you; you get to choose if you want to participate in the way they love.”
― Iyanla Vanzant

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#14

“Don’t be flattered that he misses you. He should miss you. You are deeply missable. However, he’s still the same person who just broke up with you. Remember, the only reason he can miss you is because he’s choosing, every day, not to be with you.”
― Greg Behrendt, He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

902 likes

#15

“Love is like a narcotic. At first it brings the euphoria of complete surrender. The next day, you want more. You’re not addicted yet, but you like the sensation, and you think you can still control things. You think about the person you love for two minutes, and forget them for three hours. But then you get used to that person, and you begin to be completely dependent on them. Now you think about him for three hours and forget him for two minutes. If he’s not there, you feel like an addict who can’t get a fix. And just as addicts steal and humiliate themselves to get what they need, you’re willing to do anything for love.”
― Paulo Coelho, By the River Piedra I Sat Down and Wept

729 likes

#16

“Save your skin from the corrosive acids from the mouths of toxic people. Someone who just helped you to speak evil about another person can later help another person to speak evil about you.”
― Israelmore Ayivor

tags: acids, bad, corrosive, destroyers, destruction, detractors, enemies, enemy, evil, evil-words, food-for-thought, gossips, haters, hatred, hurt, insults, israelmore-ayivor, kill, negative, negative-attitude, negative-people, skin, toxic-people, trouble

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#17

“Someone who smiles too much with you can sometime frown too much with you at your back.”
― Michael Bassey Johnson

tags: acid, attack, bad-people, calumny, chemical, counterfeit, deception, decievers, demon, devil, fake, fake-friends, fault-finders, food-for-thought, gossip, haters, hatred, hurt, incessant, insanity, negative, negative-people, pessimism, plot, ploy, pretence, pretenders, slander, slanderers, smiles, strategy, swindle, sycophants, toxic-people, trick, troubesome-people, trouble, villain

388 likes

#18

“Protect your good image from the eyes of negative viewers, who may look at your good appearance with an ugly fiendish eye, and ruin your positive qualities with their chemical infested tongues.”
― Michael Bassey Johnson

tags: appearance, bad, character, destroyers, destruction, distractors, enemies, enemy, evil, evil-words, fiend, food-for-thought, good-self-image, gossips, haters, hatred, hurt, image, insults, kill, negative, negative-attitude, negative-people, negative-viewers, protect, protection, ruin, skin, tarnish, toxic-people, trouble, ugly-people, viewers, villian

300 likes

#19

“Always remember that you were once alone, and the crowd you see in your life today are just as unecessary as when you were alone.”
― Michael Bassey Johnson

tags: alone, bad-company, bad-friends, believe-in-yourself, company, composure, contentment, crowd, detachment, disturbance, enigma, enigmatic, freedom, friends, friendship, friendships, happiness, liberty, lonely, lonliness, michael-bassey-johnson, negative-people, once, one, privacy, private-life, remember, rememberance, separation, single, today, toxic-people, unecessary, yesterday, you

194 likes

#20

“Toxic relationships are dangerous to your health; they will literally kill you. Stress shortens your lifespan. Even a broken heart can kill you. There is an undeniable mind-body connection. Your arguments and hateful talk can land you in the emergency room or in the morgue. You were not meant to live in a fever of anxiety; screaming yourself hoarse in a frenzy of dreadful, panicked fight-or-flight that leaves you exhausted and numb with grief. You were not meant to live like animals tearing one another to shreds. Don't turn your hair gray. Don't carve a roadmap of pain into the sweet wrinkles on your face. Don't lay in the quiet with your heart pounding like a trapped, frightened creature. For your own precious and beautiful life, and for those around you — seek help or get out before it is too late. This is your wake-up call!”
― Bryant McGill

tags: abuse-survivors, anxiety, healing, healing-insights, mind-body-connection, recovery, spirit, stress, toxic-friends, toxic-people, toxic-relationships

151 likes

#21

“People appear like angels until you hear them speak. You must not rush to judge people by the colour of their cloaks, but by the content of their words!”
― Israelmore Ayivor

tags: be-careful, cloaks, colour, content, crocodile-tears, deception, food-for-thought, hate, hypocrisy, hypocrite, israelmore-ayivor, judge-rush, judgement, know-your-friends, love, negative-people, people, speech, toxic-people, watch-out, wicked-people, words

108 likes

#22

“Fire False Friends as early as possible. Do it before they dig out the dream seeds you've planted! The earlier, the better; the quicker, the safer!”
― Israelmore Ayivor, Daily Drive 365

tags: bad-boys, bad-friends, bad-friendship, bad-people, better, dig, dream, dream-killers, dream-seeds, earlier, early, enemies, evil, false, fire, foes, food-for-thought, friends, friendship, good-friends, good-friendship, good-over-evil, israelmore-ayivor, out, planted, possible, quick, quit, safe, safer, steal, toxic-friends, toxic-people, toxic-relationships

60 likes

#23

“I know people can be awful dooms for each other.”
― Iris Murdoch, The Black Prince

tags: destructive, doom, iris-murdoch, the-black-prince, toxic-people, toxic-relationships, unhealthy

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#24

“Some people are just 'diminishers' and 'spoilers' for others. I suppose almost everybody diminishes someone. A saint would be nobody's spoiler.”
― Iris Murdoch, The Black Prince

tags: iris-murdoch, the-black-prince, toxic-people, toxic-relationships

3 likes

#25

“If there's a book that you want to read, but it hasn't been written yet, then you must write it.”
― Toni Morrison

tags: books, writing

20726 likes

#26

“You think because he doesn't love you that you are worthless. You think that because he doesn't want you anymore that he is right -- that his judgement and opinion of you are correct. If he throws you out, then you are garbage. You think he belongs to you because you want to belong to him. Don't. It's a bad word, 'belong.' Especially when you put it with somebody you love. Love shouldn't be like that. Did you ever see the way the clouds love a mountain? They circle all around it; sometimes you can't even see the mountain for the clouds. But you know what? You go up top and what do you see? His head. The clouds never cover the head. His head pokes through, beacuse the clouds let him; they don't wrap him up. They let him keep his head up high, free, with nothing to hide him or bind him. You can't own a human being. You can't lose what you don't own. Suppose you did own him. Could you really love somebody who was absolutely nobody without you? You really want somebody like that? Somebody who falls apart when you walk out the door? You don't, do you? And neither does he. You're turning over your whole life to him. Your whole life, girl. And if it means so little to you that you can just give it away, hand it to him, then why should it mean any more to him? He can't value you more than you value yourself.”
― Toni Morrison

tags: emotion, love, self-respect, value

2652 likes

#27

“Love is or it ain't. Thin love ain't love at all.”
― Toni Morrison, Beloved

2178 likes

#28

“Don't ever think I fell for you, or fell over you. I didn't fall in love, I rose in it.”
― Toni Morrison, Jazz

tags: love

1074 likes

#29

“Lonely was much better than alone.”
― Toni Morrison, The Bluest Eye

tags: solitude

215 likes

#30

“A dream is just a nightmare with lipstick.”
― Toni Morrison

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