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#1

“You can recognize survivors of abuse by their courage. When silence is so very inviting, they step forward and share their truth so others know they aren't alone.”
― Jeanne McElvaney, Healing Insights: Effects of Abuse for Adults Abused as Children

tags: abuse-recovery, abuse-survivors, childhood-abuse, childhood-sexual-abuse, effects-of-child-abuse, harrietta-s-happenstance, healing-abuse, healing-insights, jeanne-mcelvaney, spirit-unbroken-abby-s-story, survivors-of-abuse

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#2

“Survivors of abuse show us the strength of their personal spirit every time they smile.”
― Jeanne McElvaney, Healing Insights: Effects of Abuse for Adults Abused as Children

tags: abuse-recovery, abuse-survivors, childhood-abuse, childhood-sexual-abuse, effects-of-child-abuse, harrietta-s-happenstance, healing-abuse, healing-insights, jeanne-mcelvaney, spirit-unbroken-abby-s-story, survivors-of-abuse

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#3

“She still remembered sitting for hours as a little girl and pretending to be a hassock. A foot stool. Because if she could just stay very small, and very quiet, her mother would forget she was there, and then she wouldn't scream about people and places and things that had gone wrong.”
― Eloisa James, An Affair Before Christmas

tags: child-abuse, daughters, mothers

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#4

“The greater a child’s terror, and the earlier it is experienced, the harder it becomes to develop a strong and healthy sense of self.”
― Nathaniel Branden, Six Pillars of Self-Esteem

tags: abuse, child-abuse, childhood-trauma, psychology, self-esteem, self-knowledge, trauma

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#5

“On top of the abuse and neglect, denial heaps more hurt upon the child by requiring the child to alienate herself from reality and her own experience. In troubled families, abuse and neglect are permitted; it's the talking about them that is forbidden.”
― Marcia Sirota

tags: abuse, alienation, child-abuse, childhood-abuse, denial, deny, family-secrets, forbidden, hidden, incest, neglect, parenting, pretend, reality, secret

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#6

“All people cross the line from childhood to adulthood with a secondhand opinion of who they are. Without any questioning, we take as truth whatever our parents and other influentials have said about us during our childhood, whether these messages are communicated verbally, physically, or silently.”
― Heyward Ewart, AM I BAD? Recovering From Abuse

tags: abuse, abuse-survivors, belief-system, child-abuse, child-abuse-survivors, core-beliefs, dysfunctional-families, emotional-abuse, healing, influence, manipulation, parenting, parents, survivors

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#7

“You're a survivor because every day you make a choice not to be governed by their harsh words or actions. No one has the right to take away your happiness”
― Assunta Harris, A Sheep Amongst Wolves

tags: abuse-recovery, bullying, child-abuse, inspirational, inspirational-quotes, rape-survivor, survivor, survivors-of-abuse

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#8

“Childhood trauma does not come in one single package.”
― Asa Don Brown

tags: child-abuse, child-trauma, childhood, childhood-abuse, childhood-trauma, childhood-traumas, posttraumatic-stress-disorder, psychologist, psychology, ptsd, recovery, research, resiliency, trauma

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#9

“Many survivors insist they’re not courageous: ‘If I were courageous I would have stopped the abuse.’ ‘If I were courageous, I wouldn't be scared’... Most of us have it mixed up. You don’t start with courage and then face fear. You become courageous because you face your fear.”
― Laura Davis

tags: abuse, child-sexual-abuse, courage, fear, healing, mental-health, survivors, trauma

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#10

“Child abuse damages a person for life and that damage is in no way diminished by the ignorance of the perpetrator. It is only with the uncovering of the complete truth as it affects all those involved that a genuinely viable solution can be found to the dangers of child abuse.”
― Alice Miller, Banished Knowledge: Facing Childhood Injuries

tags: child-abuse, childhood-abuse, damage

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#11

“Many abused children cling to the hope that growing up will bring escape and freedom.

But the personality formed in the environment of coercive control is not well adapted to adult life. The survivor is left with fundamental problems in basic trust, autonomy, and initiative. She approaches the task of early adulthood――establishing independence and intimacy――burdened by major impairments in self-care, in cognition and in memory, in identity, and in the capacity to form stable relationships.

She is still a prisoner of her childhood; attempting to create a new life, she reencounters the trauma.”
― Judith Lewis Herman, Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror

tags: child-abuse, childhood-suffering, childhood-trauma

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#12

“Why isn't there a commandment to "honor thy children" or at least one to "not abuse thy children"? The notion that we must honor our parents causes many people to bury their real feelings and set aside their own needs in order to have a relationship with people they would otherwise not associate with. Parents, like anyone else, need to earn respect and honor, and honoring parents who are negative and abusive is not only impossible but extremely self-abusive. Perhaps, as with anything else, honoring our parents starts with honoring ourselves. For many adult children, honoring themselves means not having anything to do with one or both of their parents.”
― Beverly Engel, Divorcing a Parent

tags: abuse, child, parent

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