Being Real Quotes

“Real isn't how you are made,' said the Skin Horse. 'It's a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real.'

'Does it hurt?' asked the Rabbit.

'Sometimes,' said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. 'When you are Real you don't mind being hurt.'

'Does it happen all at once, like being wound up,' he asked, 'or bit by bit?'

'It doesn't happen all at once,' said the Skin Horse. 'You become. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand.”
― Margery Williams Bianco, The Velveteen Rabbit

“Share your weaknesses. Share your hard moments. Share your real side. It'll either scare away every fake person in your life or it will inspire them to finally let go of that mirage called "perfection," which will open the doors to the most important relationships you'll ever be a part of.”
― Dan Pearce, Single Dad Laughing: The Best of Year One

“When we turn around & come face to face with our destiny, we discover that words (spoken) are not enough. I know so many people who are brilliant speakers but are quite incapable of practising what they preach. It's one thing to describe a situation & quite another to experience it.

I realised a long time ago that a warrior in search of his dream must take his inspiration from what he actually does & not from what he imagines himself doing.”
― Paulo Coelho, Aleph

“Gratitude is one of the most powerful human emotions. Once expressed, it changes attitude, brightens outlook, and broadens our perspective.”
― Germany Kent

“I am a broken person. And I know exactly where my cracks are and how deep they run. I don't pretend to not be a broken person and therein lies the big difference. Because the truth is, we are all broken in places, but it is those who know exactly where and how they are broken, who also know exactly where and how they are whole! And we may not be whole in all places and in all ways, but we take whatever wholeness that we do have, and we make good of it. And we try hard to work on the broken parts, and we ask for help when we need it.”
― C. JoyBell C.

“The secret to your purpose is to find what you feel is important, and not pursue what others would think is important. When you think highly of yourself, me thinking highly of you will never be enough!”
― Shannon L. Alder

“The only difference between you and the person you admire is their perspective on life.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“Flattery does not encourage the perfect flow of love in the vein of your relationship. Be genuine and speak out what you feel for each other without hiding the painful truth.”
― Michael Bassey Johnson

“I see myself as a Scottish sky: there are rain clouds, rainbows and sunrays that run and overtake one another, mingle together and dance with each other! You see all of this within seconds of looking up! It’s a living sky, it breathes and it’s real! And I think that when you look at me, you’ll see my rain clouds first, because only after rainclouds can there come the rainbows. You see, if the rainbows come first, then the rainbows aren’t even real, so I think that if people deserve to see my real rainbows, then they will just know that they need to stick around through the rain! Like a Scottish sky, I want to be real and breathing and running. I don’t want to be a clear blue all the time, or a dark grey all the time or have fake rainbows painted onto me; I want to be Scottish.”
― C. JoyBell C.

“Who we are is who we ACTUALLY are. It's never who we create in order for people to see. You might really hate who you actually are, so then you create a sub-genus type of yourself for other people to see. But that never changes who you are. The sub-genus type won't change your genus. The only way we change who we are is by looking at ourselves in the mirror long enough to make us vomit over our disgusting waywardness and long enough to fall in love with our strengths. But you can't just fall in love with your strengths. You also need to vomit over your hypocrisies and all of your other bullshit. And you can't just vomit, either. You also have to clean it up and embrace yourself afterwards. This is how you change your genus.”
― C. JoyBell C.

“It doesn't happen all at once," said the Skin Horse. "You become. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't often happen to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand.”
― Margery Williams Bianco, The Velveteen Rabbit & Other Stories

“Being yourself is probably the only thing you need to skyrocket your life.”
― Hiral Nagda

“Your true self must shine through to attract the person who mirrors the highest vision of you.”
― Collette O'Mahony, In Quest of Love: A Guide to Inner Harmony and Wellbeing in Relationships

“I also sense that I am misusing the idea of being real whenever I discover myself anxiously weight my words and actions, that is, whenever I am being careful to be "real". When I do this I am only playing a new role - the role of the "real person". Calculation does not enter into being real. Concerns with appearances does not enter into it. Being real is more of a process of letting go then it is the effort of becoming. I don't really have to become me, although at times it feels this way - I am already me. And that is both the easiest and the hardest thing for me to realise.”
― Hugh Prather, Notes to Myself

“You poor kids! You talking children, that don't know anything about anything that matters! Don't you see? I can't play either of your games. I'm ME! I'm going to be me! Oh, if you do love me a little, let me be me! Good-by.”
― Sinclair Lewis, Mantrap

“I can’t give you a life because I take lives. Even if we escape these people at the camp and thrive without any money, I can’t escape the fact that my conscience died long ago. This feeling is within me now; I can always kill again. It’s too late for me to change. You’re a diamond, and I’m a stone; one is meant to decorate, the other to throw.”
― Navreet Sran, Diamonds and Stones: An Unlikely Story

“The truth is, we live. We can't spend every moment treasuring the things we love. We still get mad at the dog for tracking mud through the house, even though one day we would give anything to have her muddy paws back on our white carpet. We still roll our eyes at our parents' needy voicemails, even though one day those recorded moments will be all we have left.”
― Paige Harbison, The Other Side of Now

“Being real has nothing to do with the world. But, the world has a lot to do with the real you.”
― Hiral Nagda

“BEING REAL IS THE HARDEST THING TO DO WHEN EVERYBODY IS WATCHING YOU”
― P.S. Jagadeesh Kumar

“When a relationship seems forced, eventually you just get tired of trying. ”
― Germany Kent

“A heart, a real heart is pretty fucking ugly—a lumpy, asymmetrical mass of muscle, varicolored vessels sticking out like rusty old plumbing.”
― A.D. Aliwat, In Limbo

“That's what I like about Linda: she might look like Harrods on the outside but on the inside Linda's straight-up TJ MAXX-hobo without the chic.”
― Lauren Ho, Last Tang Standing

“You don't need to be like anybody else to become somebody great. You need to be 100% yourself and succeed in your own skin.”
― Geoffrey Ocaya

“There is nothing wrong with feeling more deeply than others or loving harder than you ever thought possible. It’s an important part of being real and present in life.”
― Dee Waldeck

“No being can be excluded from causal action.”
― Radoslav Rochallyi, ESSE: Theorems on Morality and Power

“I don’t know if I’ll ever be okay…but I’ll be.”
― H.C. Roberts, Harp and the Lyre: Extraction

“Discipline should be in your thoughts, not necessarily in your actions.”
― P.S. Jagadeesh Kumar

“Being real may not go viral, but it will set you free.”
― Chidi Ejeagba

“By letting go of your personas that restrict what you say and do, you may find that it’s more liberating to act like you are and say what you think. This may help you express yourself better and connect with others more deeply, and you may even reduce your stress and garner more allies or support you need.”
― Thomas Lu, The Personal Sustainability Handbook: 60+ Practices to Sustainabilize Your Health, Finances, Relationships and Beyond

“I used to think honesty lived in the mind..
A principle, a decision, something sharpened by logic.

But here’s the catch: when I try to be honest,
I notice it asks for more than logic.
It asks me to stay real, even when it hurts.

It asks the heart to stop editing itself.
It urges the soul to stand without disguise.

It isn’t a rule one follows.
It is a courage one becomes.

Its arrival does not announce a victory.
Sometimes, it offers nothing in return.
It simply lets us meet ourselves.”
― Monika Ajay Kaul