Caregiving Quotes

“Affirmations are our mental vitamins, providing the supplementary positive thoughts we need to balance the barrage of negative events and thoughts we experience daily.”
― Tia Walker, The Inspired Caregiver: Finding Joy While Caring for Those You Love

“In compassion we seek to be aware and care about the suffering of others. We seek to bring Enlightenment to all beings everywhere. This is complete selflessness, the Bodhisattva ideal.”
― Ajhan Samvara

“There is nothing as appealing as a mouth full of gratitude, and a heart full of compassion.”
― Michael Bassey Johnson, These Words Burn Like Fire

“The beauty of caregiving lies in your uniqueness, potential for self-assessment, and openness to personal growth.”
― Eboni Ivory Green, The 7 Pillars of Successful Caregiving: Things No One Tells You

“My dad lived such a beautiful life that I know I do not do him justice by focusing on the manner of his death....I think about how he lived,”
― Eboni Ivory Green, The 7 Pillars of Successful Caregiving: Things No One Tells You

“you don't need to heal others to heal yourself, you can just heal yourself. you do not need to give love to others to love yourself, you can just love yourself.”
― Kai Cheng Thom, Falling Back in Love with Being Human: Letters to Lost Souls

“I gave my mother her first bubble bath in years, but she passed out in the tub. Great, I try to do a good thing and I kill my mom. At least she smelled good.”
― Mark Steven Porro, A Cup of Tea on the Commode: My Multi-Tasking Adventures of Caring for Mom. And How I Survived to Tell the Tale

“One day she asked, 'Why do you treat me so well?' 'Because you're my mother and you deserve to be treated like a queen.' After finishing her tea she burped. 'But queens don't do that." She smiled and said, 'How do you know?”
― Mark Steven Porro, A Cup of Tea on the Commode: My Multi-Tasking Adventures of Caring for Mom. And How I Survived to Tell the Tale

“One day she asked, 'Why do you treat me so well?' 'Because you're my mother and you deserve to be treated like a queen.' After finishing her tea she burped. 'But queens don't do that.' She smiled and said, 'How do you know?”
― Mark Steven Porro, A Cup of Tea on the Commode: My Multi-Tasking Adventures of Caring for Mom. And How I Survived to Tell the Tale

“Neither of my parents swore. When Mom got mad, she’d say, “Nincompoop, I’m fed up,” or if absolutely furious, “I’m so angry I could spit.” When Dad got angry, it seemed like food came to mind. He said things like “Chowderhead,” “You’re full of soup,” or he replaced “hell” with his favorite meat: “Get the ham out of here.”
― Mark Steven Porro, A Cup of Tea on the Commode: My Multi-Tasking Adventures of Caring for Mom. And How I Survived to Tell the Tale

“Somehow the conversation drifted to G-string bathing suits (or as I call them, “anal floss”). We talked about their popularity and who would—or who should not—be jumping on that fashion bandwagon. Mom was completely in the dark. “What’s a G-string?” she asked.
The girls described them in detail.
“G-string,” Mom replied. “I’d need two Gs.”
― Mark Steven Porro, A Cup of Tea on the Commode: My Multi-Tasking Adventures of Caring for Mom. And How I Survived to Tell the Tale

“Teach the children early to plant trees, and when they grow old, they will never consider to plant bombs.”
― Michael Bassey Johnson, These Words Burn Like Fire

“A simple first aid skill learned in peace can save a life in chaos.”
― Gonca Yıldız Taş, The Golden Rules of First Aid: A life-Saving Guide for Parents and Caregivers

“The kindest and best caregivers are those who realize that it could easily be them in the weaker one's place; they do not distance the one in need by making them an "other.”
― Pamela Cox

“Companionship is more than a presence,
it’s a steady, compassionate embrace that walks beside you, through every season of caregiving and beyond.”
― Beth M. Sutherland

“From my book,
CARE FOR THE CARER,
AN ALZHEIMER'S MEMOIR

"Is there a cure?" Jane asked repeatedly.
This simple sentence had several possible meanings:

Jeff, I'm slipping, hold.
Jeff, I'm sinking, save me.
Jeff, I'm scared, protect me.

I wanted to hug her or even to pick her up and rock her in my arms....to tell her, "I'm here with you always," to admit myself, "I'm scared too.”
― Jeff Camhi

“There is no 'normal' caregiving situation in which everything goes just as planned. You do the best you can with what you've got. And you know what? That's good enough.”
― Eboni Ivory Green, Journey Beyond the Yellow Brick Road: Finding Your Emotional Home as a Caregiver

“I wanted to keep her from slipping out of my life.
I wanted to squeeze the Alzheimer's right out of her.
I wanted us to be who we once were.
None of that could happen.
But at least, from that day on, when words alluded Jane, hugs took their place.

From CARE FOR THE CARER, AN ALZHEIMER'S MEMOIR”
― Jeff Camhi

“From CARE FOR THE CARER, AN ALZHEIMER'S MEMOIR

'Is there a cure?' Jane asked repeatedly.
This simple sentence had several possible meanings.

Jeff, I'm slipping, hold me.
Jeff, I'm sinking, save me.
Jeff, I'm scared, protect me

I wanted to hug her or even to pick her up and rock her in my arms...”
― Jeff Camhi

“Close your eyes and open the windows of your heart to reflection and introspection as it is the first step to healing your soul.”
― Eboni Ivory Green, Reflections from the Soul: Acknowledge, Ruminate, Be Inspired

“You can’t pour from an empty cup — rest is not selfish, it’s survival.”
― Latora Crawford, The Caregiver's Balance: How To Show Up For Others Without Losing Yourself

“F. incorporated a line into his wedding vows: "Love is not a feeling; love is put to the test." Though Wittgenstein meant something quite technical here (he was making a point about grammar), it struck me that the way in which F. understood this sentence—love being meaningless until tested—was also correct. When I'd wash my mother's dishes and fix her computer, or lift her walker over the saddles of doorways, I'd think of this line proudly, like I had passed.”
― Peter Mendelsund, Exhibitionist: 1 Journal, 1 Depression, 100 Paintings

“Caring for yourself while caring for a loved one is to hold empathy in one hand and boundaries in the other”
― Donna Marie Vuilleumier, Always with You: Spiritual Comfort for Those Living in the World of Dementia

“L'ALTRA è la demenza senile, la scomoda compagna di viaggio di mia madre (LEI). Benché non l'abbia mai accettata, ho dovuto rassegnarmi alla sua presenza, ma, come unica forma di vendetta, ho deciso di ridere delle sue scorribande.”
― Emanuele Colombo, IO, LEI, L'ALTRA: Piccolo zibaldone di una battaglia senza vittoria

“Spesso, nella vita di figlio, capita di arrivare in quella fase in cui, con un genitore, le parti progressivamente si invertono, chiudendo un ciclo fisiologico. È un percorso difficile, con un sentiero irto di delusioni, sconforto e speranze, durante il quale si fa lentamente strada l'accettazione.”
― Emanuele Colombo, IO, LEI, L'ALTRA: Piccolo zibaldone di una battaglia senza vittoria

“La difficoltà maggiore è arrivare a capire che si tratta di una battaglia, anche con sé stessi, che inesorabilmente sarà senza vittoria. Però, come in guerra, ci saranno momenti divertenti, spesso tragicomici, che regaleranno sorrisi.”
― Emanuele Colombo, IO, LEI, L'ALTRA: Piccolo zibaldone di una battaglia senza vittoria

“Quando l'ALTRA ti viene a trovare, è meglio iniziare una cordiale convivenza e farla sedere alla tua tavola. Non puoi tenerla fuori dall'uscio. Troverà sempre un modo per entrare e mettersi al fianco del tuo caro. L'unica soluzione è l'accettazione.”
― Emanuele Colombo, IO, LEI, L'ALTRA: Piccolo zibaldone di una battaglia senza vittoria

“I didn’t know if she was aware of my presence, but I was aware of hers. It was her and me, together in the boat.”
― Darlene Fuchs, Get in the Boat: A Memoir of Love, Loss, and the Dance with Dementia.

“That’s right, Gail.
Your story.
Our story.”
― Darlene Fuchs, Get in the Boat: A Memoir of Love, Loss, and the Dance with Dementia.

“But she was still my bride, and I would always care for her no matter what.”
― Darlene Fuchs, Get in the Boat: A Memoir of Love, Loss, and the Dance with Dementia.