First Impressions Quotes Quotes

“Even if you’re not broadcasting your personal life to the universe through social media, choose your confidants wisely and with discretion. Your ability to keep your personal details close to your vest will encourage others to feel that you are trustworthy enough to be trusted with their personal details.”
― Susan C. Young, The Art of Connection: 8 Ways to Enrich Rapport & Kinship for Positive Impact

“UN-Impressive Acts of Indiscretion

• Forwarding other people's emails without getting permission.
• Throwing other people under the bus to save yourself.
• Talking loudly, being boorish and insensitive to the others around you.
• Flagrant cheating.
• Burning bridges.
• Talking smack.
• Dissing your competitor to your customer.
• Oversharing and revealing too much personal information about yourself and others.
• Breaking trust by sharing someone else’s secrets.
• Being passive-aggressive to manipulate a situation or person.
• Saying one thing and doing another.
• Being two-faced.
• Lying by omission.
• Dispensing bulls#@%!”
― Susan C. Young, The Art of Connection: 8 Ways to Enrich Rapport & Kinship for Positive Impact

“8 Ways to Shine a Positive Light on Others

1. Let the other person appear smart. The person who desperately tries to be the smartest person in the room inevitably comes off as the least.
2. Don’t bring attention to anything which may embarrass another person. Whether your conversation partner has poor grammar, a pimple on his chin, or lacks social grace, a discreet person does not say or do anything which would make another feel ashamed, embarrassed, or humiliated. Allow the other person to maintain his own grace and dignity.
3. Ask their opinions, seek their advice, ask them inquiring questions. By allowing them to reveal their opinions and knowledge, you will demonstrate respect and make them feel important.
4. Practice patience. Sometimes it takes a person a moment to gather her thoughts, process information, or respond appropriately. Your patience is respectful and appreciated.
5. Maintain your calm. Rather than react with anger or defensiveness, regulate your response and shift the energy into a more positive direction.
6. Put your ego aside. Allow another to triumph and enjoy the spotlight.
7. Be aware and concerned for the feelings of others.
8. Purposely seek ways to put others at ease and make them feel comfortable.”
― Susan C. Young, The Art of Connection: 8 Ways to Enrich Rapport & Kinship for Positive Impact

“Oversharing

Why do some people feel the need to share their deepest, darkest secrets with complete strangers or on social media? How could saying too much, too soon possibly help their case or earn the respect of others? Perhaps their insatiable need to share every sordid detail of their existence satisfies a yearning to get attention, gain sympathy, or make friends.”
― Susan C. Young, The Art of Connection: 8 Ways to Enrich Rapport & Kinship for Positive Impact

“The irony is that their enthusiasm for personal revelation can backfire badly and have the opposite effect. People become their own worst enemies and don’t need anyone else’s help in making themselves the brunt of gossip, judgment, and ridicule. A person who overshares demonstrates a lack of dignity, maturity, and discrimination, and it may also be a strong indicator of self-absorbed narcissism and exhibitionism.”
― Susan C. Young, The Art of Connection: 8 Ways to Enrich Rapport & Kinship for Positive Impact

“Learn to choose your battles carefully. When you exercise discretion, you will realize that most fights are best avoided. Let those sleeping dogs sleep!”
― Susan C. Young, The Art of Connection: 8 Ways to Enrich Rapport & Kinship for Positive Impact

“The truth may be true, but a discreet person understands that speaking the truth isn’t always helpful. It can also be hurtful and harmful.”
― Susan C. Young, The Art of Connection: 8 Ways to Enrich Rapport & Kinship for Positive Impact

“When we look at our words and deeds in this context, it strengthens our resolve to be incredibly selective. Everything we say and do becomes a part of who we are and how we connect to others.”
― Susan C. Young, The Art of Connection: 8 Ways to Enrich Rapport & Kinship for Positive Impact

“1. Building Trust & Rapport. Trust and rapport are the heartbeat of business, the backbone of high performing teams, and the secret sauce for healthy relationships.”
― Susan C. Young, The Art of Connection: 8 Ways to Enrich Rapport & Kinship for Positive Impact

“Be Interested & Interesting. People will be more interested in you when you are interested in them. If you want to impress, talk to them about . . . them.”
― Susan C. Young, The Art of Connection: 8 Ways to Enrich Rapport & Kinship for Positive Impact

“To Disclose or Not Disclose

I just saw a poster: "Dirty laundry goes here (laundry basket) not here (Facebook logo)."
Online and in person, withholding personal information is a discreet way of regulating what people learn, think, and know about you. There are times when keeping it real and keeping it honest will reveal your authenticity and trustworthiness, but there are other times, however, when things are better left unsaid or locked away. Hence the term TMI, meaning "Too Much Information!" Discretion is part of "keeping it real" in professional (and self) respect.”
― Susan C. Young, The Art of Connection: 8 Ways to Enrich Rapport & Kinship for Positive Impact

“There will be times when you would be wise to err on the side of caution. And rather than making a magnificent misstep, zip your lip and bite your tongue for personal and professional self-preservation.”
― Susan C. Young, The Art of Connection: 8 Ways to Enrich Rapport & Kinship for Positive Impact

“Usually this kind of self-serving “honesty” will sabotage your success. If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all. Realize that sometimes your own words can, and probably will, come back to be used against you.”
― Susan C. Young, The Art of Connection: 8 Ways to Enrich Rapport & Kinship for Positive Impact

“Let Sleeping Dogs Lie

When I hear someone expressing an adamant opinion which is diametrically opposed to my own, I have a strong temptation to try to convince them otherwise. But what value is there in attempting to prove another person wrong? How would that solve anything?”
― Susan C. Young, The Art of Connection: 8 Ways to Enrich Rapport & Kinship for Positive Impact

“The variety of political positions shared on Facebook in the 2016 Presidential Election was both entertaining and, sadly, destructive. I observed friends of a lifetime divide into different camps and sacrifice their friendships through argument and debate. As an avid reader and political junkie, I had to hold myself back from expressing my opinions or presenting factual evidence which would obliterate others’ claims. Why would I jump into the fray? All it would do is hurt the friendship. Rarely does arguing political positions change an opinion or belief.”
― Susan C. Young, The Art of Connection: 8 Ways to Enrich Rapport & Kinship for Positive Impact

“Have you met people who are so set on exerting their position that they are oblivious to the feelings of others? That their being right is more important than being kind? We all must consider which stance is the most beneficial. Might I suggest . . . kindness?”
― Susan C. Young, The Art of Connection: 8 Ways to Enrich Rapport & Kinship for Positive Impact

“Why do some people feel the need to throw a person's errors or weaknesses in their face or criticize their shortcomings? What benefit can they possibly receive from proving someone wrong to prove they are right? This level of insensitivity and self-centeredness leaves collateral damage in its wake and destroys positive impressions.”
― Susan C. Young, The Art of Connection: 8 Ways to Enrich Rapport & Kinship for Positive Impact

“The Truth Can Hurt . . .

“Honesty is one of your most valuable virtues, however, when used without discretion, it can reap unfavorable repercussions.”
― Susan C. Young, The Art of Connection: 8 Ways to Enrich Rapport & Kinship for Positive Impact

“Be Personable & Friendly. People who are genuinely warm and sincerely kind are easy to talk to, easy to like and bring a positive vibe to new encounters and social situations.”
― Susan C. Young, The Art of Connection: 8 Ways to Enrich Rapport & Kinship for Positive Impact

“Be a Discovery Expert. Be inquisitive. A wonderful way to get to know someone is simply by asking questions. The more you ask, the more you can learn . . . about people, work, life.”
― Susan C. Young, The Art of Connection: 8 Ways to Enrich Rapport & Kinship for Positive Impact

“Use Discretion & Good Judgment. Don't share your most embarrassing moments with public exposure. Doing what is right is not always easy and can require uncommon courage. Be brave my friends, living right is its own reward.”
― Susan C. Young, The Art of Connection: 8 Ways to Enrich Rapport & Kinship for Positive Impact

“Use Fun & Humor. Humor lightens spirits, comforts through a challenge, brings people together, engages, and entertains. Bring delight and joy to others and you will leave them wanting more.”
― Susan C. Young, The Art of Connection: 8 Ways to Enrich Rapport & Kinship for Positive Impact

“Make Others Feel Important. We all have an innate desire to feel important, be special, and feel appreciated. In your words and behavior help others feel important.”
― Susan C. Young, The Art of Connection: 8 Ways to Enrich Rapport & Kinship for Positive Impact

“Commonality & Camaraderie. By identifying, developing, and connecting powerful points of reference to others, you will have a rich resource of information from which to engage in stimulating conversations and connect on amazing levels.”
― Susan C. Young, The Art of Connection: 8 Ways to Enrich Rapport & Kinship for Positive Impact

“La noche permanecía nublada y sin vista a la luna o a las estrellas, la música de la ciudad que nunca duerme se extendía por las calles de Nueva York, un coro de claxon se escuchaba a lo lejos acompañado del ruido de las sirenas de la policía ¡Era la mejor noche de mi vida!”
― La Chica de la Constelación, La Primera Vez en Nuestras Vidas

“Your image isn't what you think of you, it's what others think of you.”
― Karyl Eckerle

“Your visual impact is your silent introduction to others.”
― Karyl Eckerle

“As an employer, your bottom line depends on your success; from hiring the right employees, to communicating your brand and culture, to making a positive and lasting impression on your clients. Your bottom line depends on IMAGE.”
― Karyl Eckerle

“Aww shucks. What have we here? A proposition by a lovely lady for me to abandon my moral framework.For shame.”

-Deputy Brandon Smythe after pulling Jennifer over”
― Carina Alyce, Volatile

“When someone asks you who you’re trying to impress your answer should always be ‘myself.”
― Frank Sonnenberg, BECOME: Unleash the Power of Moral Character and Be Proud of the Life You Choose