Gender Policing Quotes

“Guys, you don't have to act "manly" to be considered a man; you are a man, so just be yourself. Don't let society make you believe you have to prove your masculinity to anyone because you don't. You are you and you are worthy, full stop.”
― Miya Yamanouchi , Embrace Your Sexual Self: A Practical Guide for Women

“Both men and women experience pressure to conform to social standards of attractiveness. Men to look strong and be tough, women to look pretty and soft. Men to be masculine, women to be feminine. Men get judged for being "too feminine", women get criticized for being "too masculine". Gender policing affects us all.”
― Miya Yamanouchi , Embrace Your Sexual Self: A Practical Guide for Women

“All men are ‘real men’, whether they wear KingGees or a pink tutu.”
― Miya Yamanouchi, Embrace Your Sexual Self: A Practical Guide for Women

“From the time I was about five, my parents began to feel real pressure to teach me the rules. They were never abusive or violent or unkind about it, but I was a smart, more-emotionally-intelligent-than-average kid, so they didn’t have to be. All it took to curtail my feminine behavior was the slightest look of disappointment when I reached for the “wrong” item of clothing in the dress-up bin, or the subtlest hesitancy when I asked if I could get another Barbie set for Christmas. The smallest gestures and emotions became significant currency. As soon as I was old enough to perceive gender policing, I began to abide by what it told me to do. When I enrolled in preschool, things got worse. While my parents policed my gender gently, my peers at school were ruthless.”
― Jacob Tobia, Sissy: A Coming-of-Gender Story