Gender Role Quotes

“Dissociation from the body and emotions – numbness – is a basic requirement of the male ideal. Hardy and Hough point out that the patriarchal culture’s influence is so strong on this point that it interferes with men ever recognizing that pain is a normal indicator of a problem. And as the pain or discomfort increases, men are forced to choose between two problematic alternatives:

If I admit I’m sick then I must do something about it. That may entail seeing a doctor which implies I’m weak, not in control of myself, not tough enough.

However, if I don’t get help, I’ll get sicker and more vulnerable, really helpless”
― Mary Crocker Cook, Codependency & Men

“It is very likely that men who are more gender role identified would never be seen as codependent because so many of their gender role traits are “normal” for an avoidantly attached codependent. Men with gender role conflict may pre-sent as more anxious, in general, and are more likely to be identified as codependent.”
― Mary Crocker Cook, Codependency & Men

“There needs to be a fundamental shift in the way societies view women in government, one that does not see them as mere seat-fillers or stats on a chart, they must be viewed as a vital contributing factor to the betterment of the world.”
― Aysha Taryam

“Few men realize how much of their lives are lived in pursuit of the values our culture has traditionally associated with masculinity. These values – a primary focus on work, logical thinking and always being in emotional control – have many benefits to men and their families. When taken to extremes, the pursuit of traditional masculine values becomes a cage for feelings, a stranglehold on life itself.”
― Mary Crocker Cook, Codependency & Men

“Ladies, let me tell you a secret: traditional men care more about how feminine you look and carry yourself. On the other hand, men who ‘work on staying awake’ care more about how much sensuality you’ve embodied. The latter is the future.”
― Lebo Grand