Philanderer Quotes

“He was the kind of young man whose handsome face has brought him plenty of success in the past and is now ever-ready for a new encounter, a fresh-experience, always eager to set off into the unknown territory of a little adventure, never taken by surprise because he has worked out everything in advance and is waiting to see what happens, a man who will never overlook any erotic opportunity, whose first glance probes every woman's sensuality, and explores it, without discriminating between his friend's wife and the parlour-maid who opens the door to him. Such men are described with a certain facile contempt as lady-killers, but the term has a nugget of truthful observation in it, for in fact all the passionate instincts of the chase are present in their ceaseless vigilance: the stalking of the prey, the excitement and mental cruelty of the kill. They are constantly on the alert, always ready and willing to follow the trail of an adventure to the very edge of the abyss. They are full of passion all the time, but it is the passion of a gambler rather than a lover, cold, calculating and dangerous. Some are so persistent that their whole lives, long after their youth is spent, are made an eternal adventure by this expectation. Each of their days is resolved into hundreds of small sensual experiences - a look exchanged in passing, a fleeting smile, knees brushing together as a couple sit opposite each other - and the year, in its own turn, dissolves into hundreds of such days in which sensuous experience is the constantly flowing, nourishing, inspiring source of life.”
― Stefan Zweig, The Burning Secret and other stories

“Cheating in relationship is a sign of self-regulation failure. When it happens ones, it is a mistake. When it happens twice, it is unfortunate. But when it happens thrice or more, it is a pattern indicating primitive, uncivilized inhuman behavior.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Wise Mating: A Treatise on Monogamy

“Men who pursue a multitude of women fit neatly into two categories. Some seek their own subjective and unchanging dream of a woman in all women. Others are prompted by a desire to possess the endless variety of the objective female world.

The obsession of the former is lyrical: what they seek in women is themselves, their ideal, and since an ideal is by definition something that can never be found, they are disappointed again and again. The disappointment that propels them from woman to woman gives their inconstancy a kind of romantic excuse, so that many sentimental women are touched by their unbridled philandering.

The obsession of the latter is epic, and women see nothing the least bit touching in it: the man projects no subjective ideal on women, and since everything interests him, nothing can disappoint him. This inability to be disappointed has something scandalous about it. The obsession of the epic womanizer strikes people as lacking in redemption (redemption by disappointment).

Because the lyrical womanizer always runs after the same type of woman, we even fail to notice when he exchanges one mistress for another. His friends perpetually cause misunderstandings by mixing up his lovers and calling them by the same name.

In pursuit of knowledge, epic womanizers (and of course Tomas belonged in their ranks) turn away from conventional feminine beauty, of which they quickly tire, and inevitably end up as curiosity collectors. They are aware of this and a little ashamed of it, and to avoid causing their friends embarrassment, they refrain from appearing in public with their mistresses.”
― Milan Kundera, The Unbearable Lightness of Being

“A philanderer cannot be a parent - a parent cannot be a philanderer.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Wise Mating: A Treatise on Monogamy

“Saying a womaniser loves women is like saying a fighter ace loves his kills.”
― Wayne Gerard Trotman

“Baby, If you think, he is sweet and caring to you.. and flirts only with you, you have started liking him.. Pinch wake yourself up.. His inbox tells his story..”
― Himmilicious

“I was the 1st to realize being a one women guy is the only way to go & Jagger was the last”
― Kevin Kolenda

“Hypocrisy 101 (The Sonnet)

What irritates me the most is hypocrisy,
and fancy chimps cannot fathom the irony.
While untouched by the economic disparity,
in their snow castle they talk of equality.

Counting your blessings on a private jet,
doesn't make you grounded.
Setting up charities to get tax cuts,
doesn't make you philanthropist.

Collecting rings like postcard,
doesn't make you the love doctor.
Regurgitating facts like a robot,
doesn't make you any the wiser.

Hypocrites are the lowest form of animal,
Acting without substance is norm of the jungle.”
― Abhijit Naskar, The Divine Refugee

“Collecting rings like postcard, doesn't make you the love doctor.”
― Abhijit Naskar, The Divine Refugee