Victim Mentality Quotes

“Today is a new day. Don't let your history interfere with your destiny! Let today be the day you stop being a victim of your circumstances and start taking action towards the life you want. You have the power and the time to shape your life. Break free from the poisonous victim mentality and embrace the truth of your greatness. You were not meant for a mundane or mediocre life!”
― Steve Maraboli

“Your complaints, your drama, your victim mentality, your whining, your blaming, and all of your excuses have NEVER gotten you even a single step closer to your goals or dreams. Let go of your nonsense. Let go of the delusion that you DESERVE better and go EARN it! Today is a new day!”
― Steve Maraboli, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience

“The problem that we have with a victim mentality is that we forget to see the blessings of the day. Because of this, our spirit is poisoned instead of nourished.”
― Steve Maraboli, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience

“How would your life be different if…You stopped validating your victim mentality? Let today be the day…You shake off your self-defeating drama and embrace your innate ability to recover and achieve.”
― Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free

“I am not a victim. No matter what I have been through, I'm still here. I have a history of victory.”
― Steve Maraboli, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience

“Empaths did not come into this world to be victims, we came to be warriors. Be brave. Stay strong. We need all hands on deck.”
― Anthon St. Maarten

“There are times in my life when I have been medicine for some while poison for others. I used to think I was a victim of my story until I realized the truth; that I am the creator of my story. I choose what type of person I will be and what type of impact I will leave on others. I will never choose the destructive path of self and outward victimization again.”
― Steve Maraboli, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience

“Life is not compassionate towards victims. The trick is not to see yourself as one. It's never too late! I know I've felt like the victim in various situations in my life, but, it's never too late for me to realize that it's my responsibility to stand on victorious ground and know that whatever it is I'm experiencing or going through, those are just the clouds rolling by while I stand here on the top of this mountain! This mountain called Victory! The clouds will come and the clouds will go, but the truth is that I'm high up here on this mountaintop that reaches into the sky! I am a victor. I didn't climb up the mountain, I was born on top of it!”
― C. JoyBell C.

“There is a fine line between compassion and a victim mentality. Compassion though is a healing force and comes from a place of kindness towards yourself. Playing the victim is a toxic waste of time that not only repels other people, but also robs the victim of ever knowing true happiness.”
― Bronnie Ware, The Top Five Regrets of the Dying: A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing

“Self-pity is spiritual suicide. It is an indefensible self-mutilation of the soul.”
― Anthon St. Maarten

“...These politically correct language initiatives are misguided and harmful. They create highly entitled professional “victims” who expect to be free from any offense, and they engender a stifling atmosphere where all individuals walk on eggshells lest they might commit a linguistic capital crime.”
― Gad Saad

“Feminism...is not 'women as victims' but women refusing to be victims.”
― Gloria Steinem, The Trouble With Rich Women

“Why did this keep happening? Why her? Perhaps there was some pheromone certain people omitted, perceivable only on a wavelength unique to those individuals who preyed on them.”
― Nenia Campbell, Terrorscape

“Abandon the idea that you will forever be the victim of the things that have happened to you. Choose to be a victor.”
― Seth Adam Smith

“Victims declare,“The world is responsible for me,” and never do anything to better their quality of life.”
― Henry Cloud, Changes That Heal: How to Understand the Past to Ensure a Healthier Future

“Where I had felt a victim, I had become a determiner by recognizing I had choices. When considering a purchase, I stopped saying, "I can't afford it," and started saying, "That's not where I want to spend that amount of money.”
― Oriah Mountain Dreamer, The Dance: Moving To the Rhythms of Your True Self

“Baseless victimhood is usually the last stage before outright aggression.”
― Stefan Molyneux

“The trap of resentment. It is probably the worst mental prison in the world. It is the inability to let go of anger and the perceived or real injustices we suffer. Some people let one or two, or maybe ten unpleasant experiences poison the rest of their lives. They let their anger ferment and rot their personality. They end up seeing themselves as victims of their parents, teachers, their peers and preachers.”
― Ayaan Hirsi Ali, Nomad: From Islam to America: A Personal Journey Through the Clash of Civilizations

“As I'd seen over and again, people who see themselves as victims sometimes don't notice when they become oppressors.”
― Souad Mekhennet, I Was Told to Come Alone: My Journey Behind the Lines of Jihad

“People who are actually "cancelled" don't get their thoughts published and amplified in major outlets... . The term "cancel culture" comes from entitlement—as though the person complaining has the right to a large, captive audience, & one is a victim if people choose to tune them out. Odds are you're not actually cancelled, you're just being challenged, held accountable, or unliked.
― Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez”
― Emily J.M. Knox, Foundations of Intellectual Freedom

“I was neither a victim nor a prisoner, even though I lived like one, and there were days when the loneliness and loss tore at my heart. My voice, my song, my essence were mine and mine alone.”
― J A Croome, The Sand People: a collection of magical realism and other stories

“Being a victim justifies revenge, not just on one person, but on the whole world.”
― Brin Hodgskiss, Killer Stories: Conversations With South African Serial Murderers

“How can a people be individually intelligent, progressive, and enterprising, but collectively hidebound, stupid, and incapable to change its destiny as perennial victims?

This contradiction may be said to be the central concern of all Armenian dissidents from Movses Khorenatsi in the 5th century AD to Gostan Zarian in our own days.”
― Ara Baliozian, Definitions: A critical companion to Armenian history and culture

“One thing that differentiates actual victimhood from a victim mentality is the presence of Envy. The former requires outer work while the latter, inner work. Resist becoming too resentful in life to learn and discern excellence.”
― Criss Jami

“He has a way of drawing His loves back to Himself. A psyche separated from the peace (and the freedom) of Christ is liable to entangle itself in all sorts of folly and vanity, or confused witchcraft. On the one side it will preach, 'Empowerment!' But on the other it will scream, 'Oppression!' Yes, you now have the power to be oppressed: because as long as you look to be a victim, you will find yourself to be a victim.”
― Criss Jami, Healology

“The biggest appeasers are often the most foreign to those they appease because there is a sort of fear and reverence for the unknown. A brother doesn't hesitate to roast a brother when he needs to be roasted; a friend isn't afraid to criticize a friend when it's meant to be constructive. On the contrary, a society full of people so easily offended by one another is a society intimidated, fearful, and divided, and the end result is the masses trampling on trust and on the concept of telling the truth. It is at the heart of it all, at the root, where many are called 'victims' not so much because of convictions, but because of a lack of connection; where everything's an offense not so much because of conscience, but because between them there is this vast distance; where pain stood not so much because they could bear only the good, but because they lacked brotherhood. For perfect love casts out fear.”
― Criss Jami

“Does it make you feel good to play the victim? Where is the pay-off? You must be getting some satisfaction from playing this role to cling to it this way.”
― Calvin Niles, The Sun Rises in Eastmoor

“I can't stand the word "mentality," which I think is a completely artificial concept, but it is plainly true that some kind of Russian national character exists, and this bravado about enduring privation, which could so easily be avoided, is a significant aspect of it. We suffer appalling conditions, criticize and gripe about the authorities, yet simultaneously manage to take pride in being able to survive in these horrid conditions, and consider it a great competitive advantage in a hypothetical confrontation between nations. Well, yes, we say, the Japanese do make good cars, but just let them try to assemble a functioning car form the spare parts of three others and some rusty scrap metal the way our neighbor Vasily managed to. I notice the same thing in myself when I go abroad and compare the activities of opposition politicians in Russia and Europe. I can find myself on the verge of saying, "I wonder how you would get on as a politician if, after every meeting in an electoral campaign, you were placed under arrest for a month." It is as if I were priding myself on living in an environment so grim, and where politics is so very real, that I absolutely have to go to prison.

You don't need to be a great psychologist to recognize what is a the root of this: Russians yearn for a normal life, fully aware that we have invented all our existing problems for our ourselves. We can't admit to being fools, though, so we look for something to boast about, where in fact there is nothing to be proud of.

There were political discussions in our home regularly, and the overall attitude toward the authorities was critical. That seemed to be true of other families I knew, which might appear strange, because all military officers were obliged to be members of the Communist Party of the Soviet Union, and propaganda in the army and control of its ideological loyalty were top state priorities. These directives had exactly the opposite effect of what was intended. The title of "political worker" (an officer responsible for ideological work) was always tinged with irony. They were laughed at behind their backs, because everybody knew their sole professional duty was to tell lies. The mind-boggling discrepancy between what political workers said and the reality of life was obvious, even to a child when these geezers turned up at school to tell us about the wonders of the Soviet system. One who had served in Cuba described the wiles of the Americans and how marvelous life had become in the "Island of Freedom" after the victory of the revolution, but all the children wanted to know was whether it was true you could just walk into a shop there and buy Coca-Cola and how their parents could best draw the lucky straw and get to work anywhere as long as it was abroad.”
― Alexei Navalny, Patriot: A Memoir

“If you keep looking for something wrong, the devil will help you find it.”
― Carlos Wallace

“One can be a victim without adopting a victim mentality.”
― Colin M. McGroarty