Sydney

“recognizing what you can control and how your learned helplessness can contribute to your situation isn’t about shaming yourself or about believing you can outperform any obstacle that comes your way. It’s simply about recognizing not only what is out of your control, but also what is in your control and how you can change it.”
― Lola Phoenix, The Anxious Person’s Guide to Non-Monogamy: Your Guide to Open Relationships, Polyamory and Letting Go

“Always take responsibility for what you can control.”
― Lola Phoenix, The Anxious Person’s Guide to Non-Monogamy: Your Guide to Open Relationships, Polyamory and Letting Go

“But you have the capacity to define what fulfilment means to you and you alone and there’s no time like the present to decide.”
― Lola Phoenix, The Anxious Person’s Guide to Non-Monogamy: Your Guide to Open Relationships, Polyamory and Letting Go

“I think it’s important for people, monogamous or polyamorous, to be comfortable with not having any romantic relationships in their life, because if you’re terrified of being single, you can end up staying in any kind of unfulfilling relationship simply to avoid being alone.”
― Lola Phoenix, The Anxious Person’s Guide to Non-Monogamy: Your Guide to Open Relationships, Polyamory and Letting Go