Chuck

Add friend

http://neontapir.github.io

https://www.goodreads.com/neontapir

Chuck’s Bookshelves

to-read‎ (412)
currently-reading‎ (0)
read‎ (1317)

did-not-finish‎ (0)
left-unread‎ (93)
roleplaying-games‎ (155)

read-multiple-times‎ (100)
programming‎ (28)
school-books‎ (27)

Stats | More…

“Which brings us back to your question, Tom. In your prior job, when you were thinking that your old boss was a real jerk, were you trying to help him, or was this judgment of him really a way of just helping yourself?”
― Arbinger Institute, Leadership and Self-Deception: Getting Out of the Box

2 likes

“Whenever we are in the box, we have a need that is met by others’ poor behavior. And so our boxes encourage more poor behavior in others, even if that behavior makes our lives more difficult.”
― The Arbinger Institute, Leadership and Self-Deception: Getting Out of the Box

6 likes

“Living the material Don’t try to be perfect. Do try to be better. Don’t use the vocabulary—“the box,” and so on—with people who don’t already know it. Do use the principles in your own life. Don’t look for others’ boxes. Do look for your own. Don’t accuse others of being in the box. Do try to stay out of the box yourself. Don’t give up on yourself when you”
― Arbinger Institute, Leadership and Self-Deception: Getting Out of the Box

5 likes

“Men need to remember that women talk about problems to get close and not necessarily to get solutions.”
― John Gray, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: The Sunday Times Bestsellar and definitive relationship guide

54 likes

“discover you’ve been in the box. Do keep trying. Don’t deny that you’ve been in the box when you have been. Do apologize; then just keep marching forward, trying to be more helpful to others in the future. Don’t focus on what others are doing wrong. Do focus on what you can do right to help. Don’t worry whether others are helping you. Do worry whether you are helping others.”
― Arbinger Institute, Leadership and Self-Deception: Getting Out of the Box

2 likes

More of Chuck’s quotes…