Justin

“Attitude Is Everything

We live in a culture that is blind to betrayal and intolerant of emotional pain. In New Age crowds here on the West Coast, where your attitude is considered the sole determinant of the impact an event has on you, it gets even worse.In these New Thought circles, no matter what happens to you, it is assumed that you have created your own reality. Not only have you chosen the event, no matter how horrible, for your personal growth. You also chose how you interpret what happened—as if there are no interpersonal facts, only interpretations.

The upshot of this perspective is that your suffering would vanish if only you adopted a more evolved perspective and stopped feeling aggrieved. I was often kindly reminded (and believed it myself), “there are no victims.” How can you be a victim when you are responsible for your circumstances?

When you most need validation and support to get through the worst pain of your life, to be confronted with the well-meaning, but quasi-religious fervor of these insidious half-truths can be deeply demoralizing. This kind of advice feeds guilt and shame, inhibits grieving, encourages grandiosity and can drive you to be alone to shield your vulnerability.”
― Sandra Lee Dennis

“To win the game was to leave it.”
― Neil Strauss, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists

“I have a secret secret admirer. Not only is her identity a secret—but so is the fact that she admires me.
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― Jarod Kintz, This Book Title is Invisible

“She'd been in love with the man, and love is a scary thing. If not reciprocated, it can turn a person into a monster.”
― Michele Young-Stone, The Handbook for Lightning Strike Survivors