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“Hayatta kalma histerisinin hakim olduğu toplum
bir ölememişler toplumudur.”
― Byung-Chul Han, La società senza dolore: Perché abbiamo bandito la sofferenza dalle nostre vite

“We believe we are seeking happiness in love, but what we are really after is familiarity. We are looking to re-create, within our adult relationships, the very feelings we knew so well in childhood and which were rarely limited to just tenderness and care. The love most of us will have tasted early on came entwined with other, more destructive dynamics: feelings of wanting to help an adult who was out of control, of being deprived of a parent’s warmth or scared of his or her anger, or of not feeling secure enough to communicate our trickier wishes.

How logical, then, that we should as adults find ourselves rejecting certain candidates not because they are wrong but because they are a little too right—in the sense of seeming somehow excessively balanced, mature, understanding, and reliable—given that, in our hearts, such rightness feels foreign and unearnt. We chase after more exciting others, not in the belief that life with them will be more harmonious, but out of an unconscious sense that it will be reassuringly familiar in its patterns of frustration.”
― Alain de Botton, The Course of Love

“Sonunda astı kendini Karadut ağacına. O ağacın kökleri Hepimizin yüreğine dalmıştı. Hep birlikte
yemiştik meyvelerini, Hep birlikte gülmüştük gölgesinde. Ama o, tek başına astı kendini Karadut
ağacına.”
― Mîna Urgan, Bir Dinozorun Anıları

“ilk sevgilim çikolata kokardı.
Son sevgilim ölüm.
(Aradakilerin kokusu yoktu.)
Ben ölüm kokan son sevgilimi sevdim en çok.”
― Mina Urgan, Bir Dinozorun Anıları