“There is usually a Marxist moment in every relationship, the moment when it becomes clear that love is reciprocated. The way it is resolved depends on the balance between self-love and self-hatred. If self-hatred gains the upper hand, then the one who has received love will declare that the beloved (on some excuse or other) is not good enough for them (not good enough by virtue of associating with no-goods). But if self-love gains the upper hand, both partners may accept that seeing their love reciprocated is not proof of how low the beloved is, but of how lovable they have themselves turned out to be.”
― Essays In Love
― Essays In Love
“Unrequited love may be painful, but it is safely painful, because it does not involve inflicting damage on anyone but oneself, a private pain that is as bitter-sweet as it is self-induced. But as soon as love is reciprocated, one must be prepared to give up the passivity of simply being hurt to take on the responsibility of perpetrating hurt oneself.”
― Essays in Love
― Essays in Love
“Love doesn't conquer everything. And whoever thinks it does is a fool.”
― The Secret History
― The Secret History
“It is is better to know one book intimately than a hundred superficially.”
― The Secret History
― The Secret History
“Everyone returns us to a different sense of ourselves, for we become a little of who they think we are.”
― On Love
― On Love
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