Jaime Kinsley

“Be aware that abstinence will make you radically reevaluate what sex means. You’ll think about the physical act of it and reassess what an extraordinarily, magically, disgustingly intimate thing it is. You’ll lie in bed at night pondering it, trying to recall exactly what it feels like to be that close to someone and think: I cannot believe I once did that with a guy who wore a pastel-colored sweater tied round his neck in that old European man way and works in insurance and whose surname I don’t even know.”
― Dolly Alderton, Everything I Know About Love

“Be the Fool •​Make a Fool Pouch, to either wear around your neck or carry on your person during the day and to meditate with in the morning. Your pouch can be any of the following colors: spring green, violet, yellow, sky blue, or white. It should contain as many of the following as possible: an anise pod, so that you move forward with passion; loose lavender, to see the beauty of your pursuit; a sprig of rosemary, for purity of intention; a bloodstone, to ensure your victory; and a piece of fluorite, to help you see clearly. Other things to energize your bag include butterfly and dragonfly wings (found in nature of course!) and the feathers of hawks, hummingbirds, and owls especially, but really the feathers of any bird will do. Sit with your pouch in the mornings when you wake up (the closer to dawn the better). Ask it for bravery and glamour and innocence and triumph and focus. Ask it to help illuminate your path and to help you trust in yourself when the path is obscured. Touch it or sit with it throughout the day, as needed. It is certainly a foolish thing to believe that the Universe itself is looking out for you, that it’s facilitating your plans, so such thoughts are protected and encouraged under this card and this spell. The Universe is looking out for you, and will lend you its energy as you set off into uncharted territory.”
― Michelle Tea, Modern Tarot: Connecting with Your Higher Self through the Wisdom of the Cards

“Be aware that abstinence could feel so peaceful, the thought of returning to the land of the loving may start to feel impossible. It could leave you terrified of ruining that by inviting someone into it.”
― Dolly Alderton, Everything I Know About Love

“In search of a new way in, I sought out the voices of other writers who had famously kept journals, like Sylvia Plath, Susan Sontag, and Isabelle Eberhardt, before cracking open my own journal each morning.”
― Suleika Jaouad, The Book of Alchemy: A Creative Practice for an Inspired Life