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“When you catch yourself saying things and doing things that indicate you expect the other person will know exactly what you mean and will do what you anticipate, take a minute and see if you actually asked for what you wanted. Chances are you never asked.”
― Laura Fredricks, Hard Asks Made Easy: How to Get Exactly What You Want

“Expectation is our first devil when it comes to making an ask. It could apply to many situations when you expect the person receiving your time and attention to know what you want. You might expect that picking up an extra project at work will automatically be remembered by your boss when you discuss your upcoming bonus. You might expect that giving your child a certain look will remind him to play nicely with his sister. You may expect that when you have told a good friend that you are free to help them after their surgery, you will be the first one they call”
― Laura Fredricks, Hard Asks Made Easy: How to Get Exactly What You Want

“The voice that only you can hear gives you the signs, the clues, that something is going well and, more importantly, that you really want this opportunity.”
― Laura Fredricks, Hard Asks Made Easy: How to Get Exactly What You Want

“Most people don’t understand the psychology of asking, which is why it is so difficult to ask for (let alone receive) the things that are essential in your life.”
― Laura Fredricks, Hard Asks Made Easy: How to Get Exactly What You Want