“Phrases like “Get over it!” and “It’s all in your head” are rooted in ableism. They are body terrorism against non-normative brains. Let’s stop telling people to “get over it” and start asking, “How can I help you heal?”
― The Body Is Not an Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love
― The Body Is Not an Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love
“Unlearning is challenging. Do not expect neat, tidy resolutions, or assume that we will instantly fix the world’s ills in a single dialogue. We can, however, get closer to those goals if we are willing to be uncomfortable.”
― The Body Is Not an Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love
― The Body Is Not an Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love
“Saying I’m fat is (and should be) the same as saying my shoes are black, the clouds are fluffy, and Bob Saget is tall. It’s not good, it’s not bad, it just is. The only negativity that this word carries is that which has been socially constructed around it.… We don’t need to stop using the word fat, we need to stop the hatred that our world connects with the word fat.2”
― The Body Is Not an Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love
― The Body Is Not an Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love
“Concepts like self-acceptance and body neutrality are not without value. When you have spent your entire life at war with your body, these models offer a truce. But you can have more than a cease-fire. You can have radical self-love because you are already radical self-love.”
― The Body Is Not an Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love
― The Body Is Not an Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love
“Radical Reflection Say it again, for the folks in the bleachers: You are not your thoughts! That said, avoiding your thoughts will not help you train your brain to think new ones. You must look at them with gentle kindness and say, “Thank you for sharing.“ And with love, release them.”
― The Body Is Not an Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love
― The Body Is Not an Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love
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