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Are we able to describe the other person’s contribution without blaming?
“Talking successfully about feelings requires you to be scrupulous about taking the judgments, attributions, and statements of blame out of what you are saying, and putting the statement of feeling in. It is crucial to look at the actual words you are using to see whether those words really convey what you want them to. For”
― Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most
― Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most
“Behind me, I heard a young woman of 25 say, "If it weren’t for my horse, I wouldn’t have spent that year in college." Now, I'm gonna repeat that, because it bears repeating. "If it weren't for my horse..." as in, giddyup, giddyup, let's go — "I wouldn't have spent that year in college," which is a degree-granting institution. Don't think about that too long, or BLOOD will shoot out your NOSE!”
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“The longer and more carefully we look at a funny story, the sadder it becomes.”
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“There is no god, and that's the simple truth. If every trace of any single religion were wiped out and nothing were passed on, it would never be created exactly that way again. There might be some other nonsense in its place, but not that exact nonsense. If all of science were wiped out, it would still be true and someone would find a way to figure it all out again.”
― God, No! Signs You May Already Be an Atheist and Other Magical Tales
― God, No! Signs You May Already Be an Atheist and Other Magical Tales
“Because when we set out to try to change someone, we are more likely to argue with and attack their story and less likely to listen. This approach increases the likelihood that they will feel defensive rather than open to learning something new. They are more likely to change if they think we understand them and if they feel heard and respected. They are more likely to change if they feel free not to.”
― Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most
― Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most
Ben’s 2025 Year in Books
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360 books
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186 books
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477 books
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