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"In the end, porn doesn’t cause marriages to divorce. Problems that come up in a marriage or divorce are caused by the people involved in the relationship (including those therapists, pastors, and communities that tell you what’s healthy or not) and their assumptions about sex, communication, privacy, negotiation, and whether each other’s sexuality “belongs” to the other one." — Jul 16, 2026 07:19PM
"In the end, porn doesn’t cause marriages to divorce. Problems that come up in a marriage or divorce are caused by the people involved in the relationship (including those therapists, pastors, and communities that tell you what’s healthy or not) and their assumptions about sex, communication, privacy, negotiation, and whether each other’s sexuality “belongs” to the other one." — Jul 16, 2026 07:19PM
More often than not, people who vent or complain already know how to handle their current situation—they’re just looking for someone to see and appreciate their struggle.
“Professionals speak truth to power. Professionals have the courage to say no to their managers.
How do you say no to your boss? After all, it's your boss! Aren't you supposed to do what your boss says?
No. Not if you are a professional.
Slaves are not allowed to say no. Laborers may be hesitant to say no. But professionals are expected to say no. Indeed, good managers crave someone who has the guts to say no. It's the only way you can really get anything done.”
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How do you say no to your boss? After all, it's your boss! Aren't you supposed to do what your boss says?
No. Not if you are a professional.
Slaves are not allowed to say no. Laborers may be hesitant to say no. But professionals are expected to say no. Indeed, good managers crave someone who has the guts to say no. It's the only way you can really get anything done.”
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“Slaves are not allowed to say no. Laborers may be hesitant to say no. But
professionals are expected to say no. Indeed, good managers crave someone who
has the guts to say no. It’s the only way you can really get anything done.”
― The Clean Coder: A Code of Conduct for Professional Programmers
professionals are expected to say no. Indeed, good managers crave someone who
has the guts to say no. It’s the only way you can really get anything done.”
― The Clean Coder: A Code of Conduct for Professional Programmers
“The true professional knows that delivering function at the expense of structure is a fool's errand. It is the structure of your code that allows it to be flexible. If you compromise the structure, you compromise the future.”
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“Chaos was my philosophy. Oh, yeah. Have no rules. If people start to build fences around you, break out and do something else. You should never, ever be understood completely. That's like the kiss of death, isn't it? It's a full stop. I don't ever think you should put full stops on thoughts. They change.”
― Rotten: No Irish, No Blacks, No Dogs
― Rotten: No Irish, No Blacks, No Dogs
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