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"In the end, porn doesn’t cause marriages to divorce. Problems that come up in a marriage or divorce are caused by the people involved in the relationship (including those therapists, pastors, and communities that tell you what’s healthy or not) and their assumptions about sex, communication, privacy, negotiation, and whether each other’s sexuality “belongs” to the other one." — Jul 16, 2026 07:19PM
"In the end, porn doesn’t cause marriages to divorce. Problems that come up in a marriage or divorce are caused by the people involved in the relationship (including those therapists, pastors, and communities that tell you what’s healthy or not) and their assumptions about sex, communication, privacy, negotiation, and whether each other’s sexuality “belongs” to the other one." — Jul 16, 2026 07:19PM
“The best minds of my generation are thinking about how to make people click ads,” Jeff Hammerbacher, an early Facebook engineer, told me. “That sucks.”
“Today, conflicts and fatalities from conflicts are at a record low. I have lived through the most peaceful decades in human history. Watching the news, with its never-ending flow of horrifying images, it is almost impossible to believe that. I do not seek to trivialize the horror that undoubtedly remains. I do not try to understate the importance of ending current conflicts. Remember: things can be bad, and getting better. Getting better, but still bad.”
― Factfulness: Ten Reasons We're Wrong About the World—and Why Things Are Better Than You Think
― Factfulness: Ten Reasons We're Wrong About the World—and Why Things Are Better Than You Think
“You should plan on working 60 hours per week. The first 40 are for your employer. The remaining 20 are for you. During this remaining 20 hours you should be reading, practicing, learning and otherwise enhancing your career.”
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“human beings have a strong dramatic instinct toward binary thinking, a basic urge to divide things into two distinct groups, with nothing but an empty gap in between. We love to dichotomize. Good versus bad. Heroes versus villains. My country versus the rest. Dividing the world into two distinct sides is simple and intuitive, and also dramatic because it implies conflict, and we do it without thinking, all the time.”
― Factfulness: Ten Reasons We're Wrong About the World – and Why Things Are Better Than You Think
― Factfulness: Ten Reasons We're Wrong About the World – and Why Things Are Better Than You Think
“Professional developers are so certain of their code and tests that they are maddeningly casual about making random, opportunistic changes. They'll change the name of a class, on a whim. They'll notice a long-ish method while reading through a module and repartition it as a matter of course They'll transform a switch statement into polymorphic deployment, or collapse an inheritance hierarchy into a chain-of-command. In short, they treat software the way a sculptor treats clay-they continuously shape and mold it.”
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“Professionals speak truth to power. Professionals have the courage to say no to their managers.
How do you say no to your boss? After all, it's your boss! Aren't you supposed to do what your boss says?
No. Not if you are a professional.
Slaves are not allowed to say no. Laborers may be hesitant to say no. But professionals are expected to say no. Indeed, good managers crave someone who has the guts to say no. It's the only way you can really get anything done.”
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How do you say no to your boss? After all, it's your boss! Aren't you supposed to do what your boss says?
No. Not if you are a professional.
Slaves are not allowed to say no. Laborers may be hesitant to say no. But professionals are expected to say no. Indeed, good managers crave someone who has the guts to say no. It's the only way you can really get anything done.”
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