Literary Ames

“Teach her about difference. Make difference ordinary. Make difference normal. Teach her not to attach value to difference. And the reason for this is not to be fair or to be nice but merely to be human and practical. Because difference is the reality of our world. And by teaching her about difference, you are equipping her to survive in a diverse world.
She must know and understand that people walk different paths in the world and that as long as those paths do no harm to others, they are valid paths that she must respect. Teach her that we do not know – we cannot know – everything about life. Both religion and science have spaces for the things we do not know, and it is enough to make peace with that.
Teach her never to universalise her own standards or experiences. Teach her that her standards are for her alone, and not for other people.
This is the only necessary form of humility: the realisation that difference is normal.”
― Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, Dear Ijeawele, or a Feminist Manifesto in Fifteen Suggestions

“Your feminist premise should be: I matter. I matter equally. Not “if only.” Not “as long as.” I matter equally. Full stop.”
― Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, Dear Ijeawele, or A Feminist Manifesto in Fifteen Suggestions

“She wants lilacs in her wedding bouquet."
"Okay . . ." Nevada had said she wanted carnations, but we could stuff some pretty pink lilacs in there. I didn’t see the problem.
"Blue," Arabella squeezed out. "She wants blue lilacs."
No and also no. "Nevada . . ."
"I had to hide in a bush of French lilacs yesterday and they were very pretty and smelled nice. The card on the tree said, ‘Wonder Blue: prolific in bloom and lush in perfume.’"
I googled French lilac, Wonder Blue. It was blue. Like in your face blue.
"Why were you hiding in a bush?"
"She was being shot at," Arabella said with a sour face.
"So you stopped to smell the lilacs while people were shooting at you?" I couldn’t even.”
― Ilona Andrews, Diamond Fire

“In my experience, Connor acted as if the word no meant nothing unless he was the one saying it.”
― Ilona Andrews, Diamond Fire