Rebecca

“Healthy families resolve conflict without coercion, shaming, or violence.”
― bell hooks, All About Love: New Visions

“Love does not lead to an end to difficulties, it provides us with the means to cope with our difficulties in ways that enhance our growth.”
― bell hooks, All About Love: New Visions

“Imagine how much easier it would be for us to learn how to love if we began with a shared definition. The word “love” is most often defined as a noun, yet all the more astute theorists of love acknowledge that we would all love better if we used it as a verb. I spent years searching for a meaningful definition of the word “love,” and was deeply relieved when I found one in psychiatrist M. Scott Peck’s classic self-help book The Road Less Traveled, first published in 1978. Echoing the work of Erich Fromm, he defines love as “the will to extend one’s self for the purpose of nurturing one’s own or another’s spiritual growth.” Explaining further, he continues: “Love is as love does. Love is an act of will—namely, both an intention and an action. Will also implies choice. We do not have to love. We choose to love.” Since the choice must be made to nurture growth, this definition counters the more widely accepted assumption that we love instinctually.”
― bell hooks, All About Love: New Visions

“The heart of justice is truth telling, seeing ourselves and the world the way it is rather than the way we want it to be.”
― bell hooks, All About Love: New Visions